Let me tell you a story, when I was younger I used to not be persistent in anything I used to set goals for fitness, school and etc, I remember one day it was actually in lockdown about 2020 time, during that lockdown I had actually begun exercising seriously I remember I would watch those 10 minute ab videos, and just do random fitness things I done at YouTube and I would be doing it at like 3AM, because thats when I would feel motivated, lol. Yet one day I was just sitting in my room and I decided to quit… I decided to “pack it in,” not push any further. I coped to my self saying: “Oh, exercising is cringe any way.” And so I did and it did nothing good for me, it took away the one thing I had going for me and from that point on I was in a very long rut for a long time, of doing nothing but bad habits. Anyways the moral of the story is simple: Don’t quit! And I mean this particularly in your mental health / healing journey. Thank you for reading, I hope it was valuable.

Let me tell you a story, whenever I was younger I used to self sabotage all the time, I would go against my goals, skip working out, eat junk on a diet and etc. And it really made me feel bad, as of course nobody likes lying to themself. And the worst part was it would be on a downward spiral, as I would feel so guilty after messing up. This is no way to live. Because of how hard it was for me, I want to make this full guide to overcome self sabotage. Part 1: What is Self Sabotage really? All self sabotage really is, is just were your purposefully “sabotage” yourself and your goals like, if you say to yourself you will go to the gym at the new year, but then you just procrastinate and never do it, instead just playing video games, yet deep down you don’t want to do this really, but you still do. That is a good example of it. And it is by no means a nice thing, we all should look to eliminate it. Part 2: What is Self Sabotage caused by really? It can be caused by a variety of different things, but quite honestly usually it is due to poor mental health, unhealed trauma, anxiety, depression and things of that nature. Doing the self destructive habits are not good for your goals but it is how you cope with dealing with the poor mental health. Part 3: How Trauma Ties Into it All As mentioned before most of not all of self sabotage is caused by poor mental health. And I would argue out of all the mental health problems like depression, anxiety and etc. Trauma comes out on top as the most common reason for this, as being in survival mode will undeniably make you self sabotage. Part 4: The Solution The solution is honestly quite simple, heal your trauma. I mentioned anxiety, depression and etc can cause it too. But trauma healing also heals those too. So if you just follow the trauma healing method I tell you to do, you stay consistent, as a result you will beat self sabotage. Another final thing I’ll say is an excellent book on this is: “The Mountain Is You” by Brianna Wiest.

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Let me tell you a story, when I was younger, I used to have a mind that was against me, and ultimately one that would go against my healing journey. For example I remember one day I was on the school bus, coming home after two of my “friends” had give me horrible news saying that another one of my “friends,” put an cringe picture of me as his profile on TikTok. And as I came off the bus and was walking down the lane to my home, my mind was against me, it was constantly repeating what that guy done to me in my head, it made me feel really bad. My mindset was truly against me. And that is why I want to make this simple full guide to mindset in your healing journey, it matters more than you think, so without further ado, let’s get in. Part 1: Why it Matters Mindset is vital in your healing journey as without it, you will still for example constantly replay the incidents in your mind. You will have a negative attitude towards the incidents too. And all and all, not having a good, wholesome, positive mindset will diminish your results a lot in your journey of becoming happier. Part 2: The Benefits Having a good positive mindset is a wonderful thing for healing, your mental health journey and honestly for all areas of your life. It will make you feel more positive when you think / meditate back on old trauma’s. It will make your nervous system feel more regulated, you will generally be happier which in turn will boost all areas of your life. In summary, it will just give you a huge array of awesome benefits. Part 3: Mind “Hack’s” Now time to get into the real “sauce.” 1. Reframing The Story One mind trick that can really help is reframing the story of your trauma, and actually understanding why the people who done this to you, actually did it. Like for example if you had a trauma with family, you could be like: “Oh yeah but it was there way of showing affection.” And like wise for other incidents. This can help us understand the motive of why people done this to us, which will as a result make us happier!

Trying to decode someone whose words and actions live in two entirely different worlds is deeply exhausting. When we constantly try to figure out someone's true intentions, we end up carrying the heavy, confusing weight of their insincerity. You are not obligated to solve the puzzle of another person's behavior. Your mental energy is a finite, precious resource, and spending it on those who lack basic honesty only clouds your own peace. Stepping away from the noise is a profound form of self-care. Let go of the need to understand them, release the mental clutter, and allow your mind to settle back into its natural, quiet clarity.