Back whenever I was 15 years old, I got up to a pretty good milestone of "success." You see I was doing this business on eBay where I would sell things and one month I actually made over £1,000 and it was awesome. It was brilliant and then I could buy things I wanted and I felt really good about myself but that feeling of "success" didn't last for long. Quickly I got sick of it. I got tired. I thought all this money online would make me happy. This was my goal for so long, right, but I was still miserable. Why was that? It was because of unhealed trauma, a dysregulated nervous system, and survival mode. You see I was just chasing more and more money in the fastest way I could do past what I was doing and I wasn't caring about the purpose of my work, of my business. I was just choosing the thing that made money ASAP. I was not caring about the purpose of helping my customers with their pains and serving them well, I was not integrating my true purpose in my work life and monetizing that. I was instead choosing instant gratification and because of this I undeniably felt unhappy and didn't feel good about myself. That all changed whenever I got into trauma healing because I was chasing this validation because I was bullied severely at this time, which is why I choose the purposeless business model. I thought all this would make me feel better if I can achieve this goal, even in a way that I hate but that was so foolish. The only change was whenever I did this practise of trauma healing, where I brought up the unprocessed emotion and felt that unprocessed emotion. Then doing that on repeat day after day for my traumas. This is something I learned.

For the longest time I lived a life full of stress. I was stressed at school with exams, people gossiping about me, and generic overthinking about the future: "Oh how am I gonna make money? How am I gonna get a job?" All this but I only realised too late how silly that was. Let me explain: whenever you live a life less stressed, whenever you can live a more slow life and a more peaceful life, you feel like you don't have to watch YouTube videos to learn educational things. Whenever you're cooking a meal for example, you just cut out those small things and maybe add in one mindful bite to the meals you eat instead of just eating them only when you have a YouTube video by Alex Hormozi or something lol. This can really help you with living a more regulated life, a happier life, and it's very healing and soothing for your nervous system. Just thought I'd put it out there in this simple post. "Live a more slow life" sounds kinda wishy-washy, right? But if you just take the time to really sit around more, drink a cup of tea, reflect, and journal on life, you will have a much happier life and you will have a less stressful life. Hope this helps. This is something I learned.

Your well-being cannot be reliant on your emotional state. You don't need to be happy all the time; it's just an emotion. Don't resist them, don't shame them... Emotions are visitors. But there is you letting emotions go through you. You are the peace, the stillness; you are the one who is observing the emotional state. Alignment is that I am not identifying with my emotions. I am looking upon the emotions; there is sadness, there is anger, there is happiness... I am calm even though there is emotion. So there is a difference between awakened and non-awakened. You can't understand the paradox, you only can exeprience that - mindfulness, meditation, and staying out of the ego. If something is wrong in a real situation, can emotion solve the problem? Is getting mad in a grocery store going to fix the problem of waiting? It's ok to be mad, but the thing is to give time to release the emotion and then make a decision.

You know David Goggins’ trauma heals daily? Let me explain: David Goggin’s- we all love him, right? The discipline guy. He had a very hard childhood with his family, got abused, things of that nature, and it was very bad. Bless him. But anyway he dedicates 30-something minutes to do the stretching exercise that he uses for trauma. Trauma, if you didn't know, is stored in the hips by the way in Psoas muscle, and he does this exercise a lot. It is called indian style sitting, that is one of the main stretching exercises he does, this is how you do it by the way: 1. The Base: Sit directly on the floor (use a yoga mat or rug for comfort). 2. The Legs: Bend your knees and fold your legs inward so they cross in front of you. 3. The Feet: Tuck each foot underneath the opposite knee (like a loose pretzel). 4. The Posture: Keep your chest lifted, shoulders relaxed, and your spine perfectly straight This is something that you can do to really get tangible results on your healing journey. To be honest I've never done this myself but it's something you can consider and it's something that I should probably consider as well. I just thought I'd put it out there and yeah, let me know your thoughts on this!

I used to believe that things were outside of my control, for instance, how much money I was making with the business, my health, my relationships, things of this nature. Because of that I had a pessimistic negative mindset and what does that do for my results? It diminished them. Let me explain the better mindset to this. I First learned this in the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k" by Mark Manson. He mentions that everything is your fault but I later learned from a course I was watching from one of my mentors that it's better to be like "everything is in your control" instead of "everything is your fault". Whenever you say it's your fault, it's like you make it negative and it doesn't help. Just think of it this way: everything, particularly this, is very true for those that have their own businesses. It's in your control if you want to get clients. You are in control. Just reminding me that, as you know, I was in a bad rut last month and I kind of blamed all our things. I was saying, "Oh the platforms' lead quality, that's the reason why I'm not making money," but I actually just went on a hard work season for about three weeks there. I got back up to one more client and that's a good milestone right there again. That's awesome right? But last month I was having this mindset, "Oh it's the lead quality," and I was blaming things outside of my control. That was weak. That was not helping me with my nervous system, with my healing journey, anything like that. This is what worked for me guys. This is a new mindset. Hope it helps you it helped me a lot.