Fear clarifies what matters · ADHD Focus Founders

Fear clarifies what matters

Something I relate to very much when I was younger was this fear of being seen and heard. The thing i loved most back then was singing in front of others but it gave me terrible stage fright 😱 getting physically ill before every performance.

I always did it anyway. The body reactions got less severe over time... but it is still there. It's part of our wiring.

In a one shot moment. When it was now or never.

Fear of judgement turned into sovereignty... not because I didn't have fear, grief, intensity... but because I allowed them to stay.

I believed in what I was doing.

@E. V. Wright

your work connected me to this puzzle piece...

I saw feelings differently in a moment when performance turned into a authenticity being witnessed.

When i forgot to think about myself at all because the moment had gravity and i allowed it to ground me into what mattered the most in that moment. (The last sounds my mother would hear were me singing my absolute best... the thing she always wished for me... nothing could stop me, not social rules or expectations... this moment deserved all of me)

I could move through fear of lots of things somewhat easily... but the thing i loved most... I still had the deepest fear everytime. Because fear is actually just a focus lense.

It shows you what's important to you.

It's asking to be acknowledged, its a signal to slow down the moment and be present with yourself and your audience

...remember a time when you moved through this fear with a successful outcome. You'll keep building more of those moments.

Fear isn't trying to stop you.

Its asking, for presence and reverence for something important.

What alchemizes fear into success truly is doing it anyway... with the added nuance in my case... this moment, this time, this day is all that matters. Let everything else become background noise.

@Sebastian Schroeder

You reminded me of this today.

Your voice, words, honesty and integrity engender trust. I've never met you in person but this is an obvious recognition to me from a distance. Just from what you post here. The way you support others... its a gift.

Your energy precedes you.

You do not need to be perfect.

Human is always better.

Sales is easier when you are doing work that is aligned and feels purposeful to you.

But the word sales itself brings with it cultural perception of extraction.

Shift sales to offers with exchange and its no longer about gain but reciprocity and connecting to someone who needs this in their life.

@Bill Widmer

@Rex Loyer

you guys have taught me so much about these concepts.

[You deserve to receive value in exchange for the value you provide... this shifts greed into reciprocal exchange]

If you still don't enjoy sales or other aspects of the business partner with another to fill the gap.

The barter system still works 💪 and is alive and well in business.

Remember your offers are a gift. Remember your presence is a gift. Remember that people often need other people to learn from and grow with.

People talk a lot about not needing validation on the internet... but something they don't say enough is that you still care.

You still care... a lot.

Confidence is a trained skill.

It doesn't arrive all at once. Don't wait for its arrival to start.

We are hardwired for human connection. And the idea that we don't need anyone Validating anything ever is a deeply flawed perception.

You do not need to be an island.

@Alison St. Romain

you reminded me of this 🙏✨️💖

Brene Brown says, (paraphrasing) be interested in opinions from those who have been in your arena.... Not the chatter from the cheap seats.

I am one of the most confident people I know. Im certain of many things. What built that over time was a combination of self and others observations. And building deep trust with myself.

But if my aligned business idea doesn't scare me at least a little... then I know, it's not what's most important to me.

It guides me in this way. Vulnerability is a skill that helps a lot.

Belonging to yourself matters but being able to exist in community with others matters just as much.

Reciprocity matters.

What you put out comes back Amplified... energy, thoughts, intention matters more than the material matter in front of you.

Biologically it has to matter.

To deny this is to remove access to what can amplify your energy.

Everyone benefits when people are rooting for your rise.

This is already happening in your field. You see it and you feel it and you are observing. It is the observation that changes everything.

Let fear be there.

It doesn't bring doubt with it.

The mind does that while trying to disprove the existence of the fear.

Fighting with your biology takes a lot of energy.

@Asha Hope

does incredible work with identity... seriously deep wisdom and guidance. This Matters more than I ever thought it would.

During the climb part of your journey, Big feelings becomes a focal lense... it changes your perception and the body reaction adapts accordingly.

It no longer controls you. Ruminating reduces and It becomes... oh... this is going to be... SO GOOD!!! Why? Because it matters.

Movement let's it pass through.

Before every important very successful meeting I took at my former job... especially if feeling doubt...

I cast the intention of successful outcome.

I write it down beforehand... im so grateful this went so well!! This is my form of self assurance. It's always true when you understand that even a "no" still teaches you something. Still continues your momentum.

When it matters enough to you... flow finds you. Thats when your neurodiversity becomes your biggest asset.

Opportunities align.

Your success is a forgone conclusion.

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