🤝 Friendly Reminder Friday: It’s OK to Say No

I had an interesting moment recently that reminded me about boundaries.

A colleague I rarely stay in touch with reached out and asked if I could be a reference for her brother who is applying to the university where I work. The tricky part… I’ve never met her brother.

For a moment I paused and thought about it. I didn’t want to be judgmental, but I also realized it wouldn’t feel right for me to vouch for someone I don’t know. A reference should come from a place of genuine experience.

It also reminded me that sometimes people reach out when they need something. That doesn’t always mean bad intentions, but it’s still okay to listen to your gut.

So I kindly declined.

Little life lesson:

Being supportive doesn’t mean saying yes to everything. Sometimes the most honest and respectful thing you can do is simply say no.

No drama. No judgment. Just integrity.

Anyone else ever been in a situation like that?

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