Way back when… when I had babies, my husband said “we don’t have time for us, we can focus on that when the kids are older”. I was a dutifully little wife and said ok. But it was different for me. He went to work every day, played hockey, paddled, etc. He had adult time, it was ME that wasn’t a priority. I was home all day with three kids… food, toys, diapers, play dates… that was all I had. And sure, I could have gone out for a “girls night” but the person I wanted to go out with was my husband. I felt lonely. Unseen, unappreciated. I was the VP of poop. And it didn’t change. But we did. Our kids grew up shuffling between two households. Their belongings spread between two households. The cost of divorce in financial terms was steep. The cost in emotional terms? Exorbitant. The best lessons I taught my kids was showing them I chose to be happy and not lonely, or undervalued. But I wish I could have taught them that while living under one roof with both parents. Connection can’t wait, and kids benefit from happy parents - not complacent or dull parents. Keep your relationship thriving. You kids will thrive too. And if you need some inspo for relationships, date nights, connection and more… join me in The Relationship Chef and let’s cook up connection. The time is now.