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THIS WEEK WAS A LOT. IN A GOOD WAY.

This week has been a lot, not in a bad way, not in a falling apart way, but in that way where you suddenly realise something has shifted and you can feel it before you can properly explain it. I’ve been more present, more open, sharing more, showing up more, and actually connecting instead of just posting and moving on.

And I can feel the difference, not just in me, but in the community too.

There’s been more activity, more conversations, more honesty, and new mums coming in who just feel right. Not because they fit a niche, but because the energy feels safe. I’ve found myself feeling really grateful for this space, not in a loud excited way, but in that quiet this actually matters way that lands in your chest.

So I stopped and reflected, because when something feels different in my body, I need to understand why.

WHAT SHIFTED (AND IT WASN’T STRATEGY)

The biggest shift hasn’t been a strategy change or me suddenly doing something clever. It’s been internal. A nervous system shift. An energy shift. A me not trying to be something I’m not shift.

For a long time, especially in business, I didn’t really know where or how I fitted in, so I adapted. I became a bit of a chameleon. I softened my edges. I tried to sound more professional, more polished, more like what I thought I should be so I wouldn’t stand out too much.

And honestly, that never really worked for me.

This week has made it really clear that I don’t want to do that anymore. I don’t want to water myself down or hold parts of myself back just to feel safer. Letting myself be seen still puts pressure on my nervous system, I can feel that, but hiding myself does too, and I’m tired of doing that.

WHAT I’M SEEING INSIDE THE COMMUNITY

As I’ve stopped trying to make everything neat or hold it all together, the space has softened. The conversations feel more human. Less surface-level. Less advice-y. More about nervous systems, relationships, and what life actually looks like when neurodiversity is part of the picture.

Originally, this community was shaped a lot by my own lived experience, especially my relationships with my daughter Lily, because that’s where so much of my story sits. But this week I asked the community who was actually in here, and the answers just landed.

Mums with daughters.

Mums with sons.

Mums with both.

Mums who are neurodivergent themselves.

Mums raising neurodivergent kids.

Mums doing both.

And it felt right straight away, because this was never really about gender. It’s about RELATIONSHIPS.

About how different nervous systems clash, connect, misfire, co-regulate, and try to find safety inside families.

WHAT THIS SPACE IS NOW

This feels like a relationship-first, neuro-affirming space now, and I don’t feel wobbly saying that anymore. It’s a place where mums can breathe, offload, and be honest about the messy middle of life. Where we talk about the good stuff, the hard stuff, the ugly stuff, the things we don’t always say out loud.

There’s no toxic positivity here. No just-cope-harder culture. No comparisons. No judgement. It’s built on honesty, compassion, respect, and emotional safety. You don’t have to mask. You don’t have to perform. You don’t have to explain yourself perfectly. You can just turn up as you are and start from there.

WHY THIS WEEK HIT ME

This week reminded me why I created this space in the first place. It was the space I desperately needed and couldn’t find. And watching it grow and evolve in this way has felt grounding in a really deep way.

It’s not perfect. It’s not polished. It’s not for everyone. But it’s real, and it’s working, and that feels important.

If you’re a mum navigating neurodiversity, whether that’s with sons, daughters, or both, and you’re craving a space that feels human, safe, and rooted in real life, you’re welcome inside.

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