If you’ve been reading my recent posts with all the evolving bits… the changes, the shifts, the little rabbit holes and the “wait… what do I actually mean by that word?” moments… you’ll get why this feels so GOOD. I contacted Skool and within a matter of hours… it’s done. I’m now in the RELATIONSHIPS category (where I should’ve been the whole time), and honestly it feels so aligned I could cry and do a little dance in my kitchen at the same time. Happy bunny. It’s been an awesome week over here. How’s yours going?

So I started the year, the New Years, making a few… sort of having some reflections and making some changes on my community, because I noticed it was in the self-improvement category, and it really should be in the relationship category. And then that took me down a rabbit hole to making some edits to my about page, and then some people were saying some things weren’t super clear, so then that took me down another rabbit hole. And then I realised… okay, we’re not just daughters in here, it’s mixed gender groups, so then that one was shifted, and then I came on to the whole age story, like… oh, who is it for? Is it for kids? Is it for teens? Is it for adults? I know who it’s for, but we all have a different perception of what those mean. So once I put the question out there… I got some EPIC insights, and I truly appreciate from everybody in every community that I asked that gave me stuff, because honestly… it did boggle my brain for a little while, but then what are you gonna do. OKAY, HERE’S WHAT HAPPENED (THE RABBIT HOLE BIT) When I was reading it, I was like, ok, yeah, that makes sense, I can understand it from that perspective. And I was saying to people, I really appreciate your perspective because, obviously, everybody sees things, words in a different way, and I know that language is really important because it’s what kind of lands for us and what doesn’t land for us. That’s what I was trying to kind of get across… like yes, I’m working with teen-ish kind of age kids, but it’s not just teen-ish age kids that parents need that support with, and the support that I’m giving is to mums as well. But then… this is where I got into my own head with it and the rabbit hole. A lot of people see teens as sort of 13 to… 16 years old, and then after 16, they’re seen as young adults, and this was a bugbear of mine when my big ones were younger, because their response to me was, yeah, but we’re a young adult… and like, you’re not. A young adult is 18 to 24, in my mind. It just… logically, it makes no sense for me, emotionally, it makes no sense for me, and what comes with the connotation of adult is very different to that of a child.

I’m having a bit of a deep dive into the wording on my community about page and I’d love some human brains on this because the wording and the language really matters to me. I run a community for mums embracing neurodiversity and I’m currently reworking the copy and visuals for the about page as I want our category to clearly sit under Relationships, not self-improvement, it does not really feel right and aligned The space is about a mums relationship with herself FIRST then the mother/ child relationship, nervous systems, and connection stuff Here’s where I’m getting a bit stuck. I know for sure this space is for mums of neurodivergent kids BUT I also know first-hand that it doesn’t magically stop when our kids turn 18. The needs change for sure, but the need for support connection and understanding absolutely continues into adulthood. Is this making sense? also I am very aware that words like kids/teens/youths etc all land differently depending on age experience and background. For example the word youth for me personally feels very youth club / youth offending based even though I know that’s not the actual definition, I asked a few friends and yeah they had similar vibes Hence this post now I don’t want to be vague. And I fir sure don’t want to accidentally exclude mums of adult neurodivergent children. And I don’t want to box it into a “this is just a phase” age range either! With that said this is where I’m curious what wording feels most accurate and inclusive to you when describing offspring across childhood teens and adulthood while still being clear that this is a parenting relationship and nervous system space. Things I’m playing with but not settled on are… 1- mums of neurodivergent children of any age 2-mums of neurodivergent kids and teens 3- mums parenting neurodivergence across the lifespan But none of them feel quite right yet, going around in circles Would totally love your thoughts or even just what doesn’t sit right for you when you read certain wording.

This week has been a lot, not in a bad way, not in a falling apart way, but in that way where you suddenly realise something has shifted and you can feel it before you can properly explain it. I’ve been more present, more open, sharing more, showing up more, and actually connecting instead of just posting and moving on. And I can feel the difference, not just in me, but in the community too. There’s been more activity, more conversations, more honesty, and new mums coming in who just feel right. Not because they fit a niche, but because the energy feels safe. I’ve found myself feeling really grateful for this space, not in a loud excited way, but in that quiet this actually matters way that lands in your chest. So I stopped and reflected, because when something feels different in my body, I need to understand why. WHAT SHIFTED (AND IT WASN’T STRATEGY) The biggest shift hasn’t been a strategy change or me suddenly doing something clever. It’s been internal. A nervous system shift. An energy shift. A me not trying to be something I’m not shift. For a long time, especially in business, I didn’t really know where or how I fitted in, so I adapted. I became a bit of a chameleon. I softened my edges. I tried to sound more professional, more polished, more like what I thought I should be so I wouldn’t stand out too much. And honestly, that never really worked for me. This week has made it really clear that I don’t want to do that anymore. I don’t want to water myself down or hold parts of myself back just to feel safer. Letting myself be seen still puts pressure on my nervous system, I can feel that, but hiding myself does too, and I’m tired of doing that. WHAT I’M SEEING INSIDE THE COMMUNITY As I’ve stopped trying to make everything neat or hold it all together, the space has softened. The conversations feel more human. Less surface-level. Less advice-y. More about nervous systems, relationships, and what life actually looks like when neurodiversity is part of the picture.

So in the last seven days, my community Mums Embracing Neurodiversity has gone from 0% to 21% conversion. And I want to be really super clear, this isn’t about numbers for the sake of numbers. This is about CONNECTION. This is about people feeling me, not just seeing content. I’ve been sitting quietly reflecting on what I’ve done differently, because I’ve felt a shift in myself since just before Christmas, and definitely since before the New Year, in how I’m approaching my business. My copy. My way of showing up. My own energy and nervous system around business. For a long time, I didn’t really know where or how I fitted in, so I became a bit of a chameleon. And that’s not what I want to do anymore. THE FIRST SHIFT - MY WORDS One of the biggest changes has been my copy. It’s now literally my full spoken words. No overthinking. No editing. No going back to change things because they don’t look “professional enough”. My words, how I actually speak them. I’ve also changed the layout. Instead of following the copywriting style most entrepreneurs use, I’ve made it fuller. Fewer line breaks. Fewer gaps. More like how my brain actually talks. I’m really very clear on this, I don’t allow AI to change who you are, what you stand for, or your voice. But I do use AI, because of my neurodiversity. I struggle to stay focused. I struggle to get my thoughts in order. My dyslexia means everything can get jumbled. I fumble words. I lose words. I know what I want to say, but I can’t always access it. My written style has never matched my verbal style, and I realised I didn’t want to hide that anymore. I wanted people to feel like they’re hearing my voice when they read my copy, like I’m actually there with them. Not some overly polished version of me that’s been labelled “professional” by someone else’s standards. THE SECOND SHIFT — HOW I SHOW UP The other thing I’ve done differently, and this feels so big, is how and where I’m showing up. Instead of going onto Skool thinking I need to interact with X amount of people or tick things off a list, I’ve shifted into REAL CONVERSATIONS. Not just with people in my niche. Just people.