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The 20-minute "Driveway Sit"

I spent 20 minutes sitting in my car yesterday after I pulled into the driveway. Engine off, lights off, just staring at the garage door.

I knew my wife and kids were on the other side of that door. I knew there was dinner to make, homework to help with, and "Dad" duties to perform. But I was absolutely empty.

I’d spent the last 9 hours "masking"—nodding in meetings I couldn't focus on, triple-checking emails so I didn't look careless, and forcing my brain to act "normal." It’s a special kind of exhaustion that hits when you're 40+ and realize you’ve been running this marathon for decades without even knowing you were wearing lead boots.

The hardest part isn't the work itself; it's the guilt of having nothing left for the people who matter most because I spent all my "functional" energy just trying to survive the office.

I used to think I was just lazy or a bad husband. Turns out, my brain just processes the world at a different frequency, and I never had the right manual for it.

Anyone else find themselves sitting in the car a little longer these days just to find the "on" switch one more time?

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