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Somatic Mindfulness

You know that thing where something stressful happens and then instead of just dealing with it, your brain goes into a full shame spiral?

Like, you shout at your kid. And instead of sitting down, apologising, repairing the moment... your brain starts with "I'm not good enough. I can't cope. Why do I always do this?"

That spiral is actually causing more pain than the thing that happened.

And the reason you can't think your way out of it is because it's not a thinking problem. It's a body problem.

So what actually happens is this. The stressful event dysregulates your body. Your nervous system gets activated. Your body sends distress signals up to the brain. And your brain does what brains do. It tries to make sense of those signals by creating a story.

That story is what Buddhism calls the second dart. The first dart is the event. You shouted. It happened.

It wasn't great. But you can deal with it. The second dart is the shame spiral your brain piles on top. And that's the part making the whole thing ten times worse.

So the question isn't "how do I stop the thoughts?"

It's "how do I catch what's happening in my body before my brain turns it into a story?"

That's somatic mindfulness. Using your mind to notice what's happening in your body. Without judgement. Without trying to fix anything. Just noticing.

When the spiral kicks in, instead of following the thoughts, you switch channels. You come into your body.

"Oh, I've got this weird sensation in my stomach. There's tightness in my chest. My shoulders are up by my ears."

You're just naming what you notice. And because your brain is now occupied with sensing instead of storytelling, it doesn't go down the spiral. The body starts to calm. Calmer signals go to the brain. And the loop breaks.

Now, the biggest mistake people make when they first try this?

They try to fix what they find. "Right, I'm going to tune in and make this better." But that's just another loop. Another spiral on top of the spiral.

We're not trying to fix anything. We're just gathering information. And sometimes the awareness itself lessens the intensity. Sometimes it doesn't. Either way is fine.

And one more thing. This doesn't make you numb. It's actually the opposite. You still feel everything deeply. The anger, the sadness, the frustration. But instead of the emotion driving your reaction, you get space. You feel the anger, you tune into your body, and then you choose how to respond. You're still human. You're still impacted. But you've given yourself breathing room.

If you want to start practising this:

🌿 Try 5 minutes once a day. Just stop and ask, "How does my body feel right now?"

🌿 Or do 2 minutes, 5 times a day. Little check-ins spread through your day.

Over time you'll start to notice patterns. "Oh, when I'm stressed, my jaw clenches. When I'm sad, I feel it in my chest." And eventually you'll catch the signals before the brain creates the story.

If you want the free Somatic Mindfulness Quick Start Guide with a body scan written out plus a 7-day tracker, that's inside The Somatic Reset Lab.

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