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Calvin Coulter

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Perfectionism…

(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this)

Let me tell you a story, back a while ago, a couple of years ago, I used to be a massive perfectionist.

I would overthink how my exam process for studying looked.

I would overcomplicate things and, worst of all, just not be happy.

This really held me back and I was simply a perfectionist.

I didn't want to start something unless it was the perfect time and this held me back from taking action.

It held me back on doing the work and trying new things and everything, and that really held me back.

I would say the root reason for my perfectionism was just from my own unhealed trauma and my own dysregulated nervous system and the fact that I was in survival mode.

Perfection is honestly nonsense and I just want to tell you exactly the process in which you can heal this and the deep way it works.

How you do it is by healing your trauma because most, not always, with the people I've helped and helping myself have realised that this is actually caused by a root issue, trauma.

It's because you weren't accepted by your parents if you didn't perform to a certain standard, right?

This is why a lot of people have or they at least experienced something like that.

You need to heal your trauma.

Bring up that trauma.

You need to journal about it or talk about it to someone, think on it and bring up that emotion, get it out, do that on repeat.

By the way if you're wondering how you realise you have these traumas, what I really recommend is having a lot of empty time in your day where you just basically do nothing to an extent.

You just have less time when you're busy and even with work, fitness, productive things, it's not ideal so do that and you'll find out the real root cause that's holding you back and everything.

Your trauma and healing that trauma and your perfectionism will heal as a result of that and perfectionism honestly goes deep.

Something I struggled with deeply and I've sadly seen a lot of people struggle with deeply and it makes me hurt, but hopefully this post can reverse that.

Thank you for reading.

Hope it was valuable.

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