(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this) Let me tell you a story, when I was younger, I used to have a mind that was against me, and ultimately one that would go against my healing journey. For example I remember one day I was on the school bus, coming home after two of my “friends” had give me horrible news saying that another one of my “friends,” put an cringe picture of me as his profile on TikTok. And as I came off the bus and was walking down the lane to my home, my mind was against me, it was constantly repeating what that guy done to me in my head, it made me feel really bad. My mindset was truly against me. And that is why I want to make this simple full guide to mindset in your healing journey, it matters more than you think, so without further ado, let’s get in. Part 1: Why it Matters Mindset is vital in your healing journey as without it, you will still for example constantly replay the incidents in your mind. You will have a negative attitude towards the incidents too. And all and all, not having a good, wholesome, positive mindset will diminish your results a lot in your journey of becoming happier. Part 2: The Benefits Having a good positive mindset is a wonderful thing for healing, your mental health journey and honestly for all areas of your life. It will make you feel more positive when you think / meditate back on old trauma’s. It will make your nervous system feel more regulated, you will generally be happier which in turn will boost all areas of your life. In summary, it will just give you a huge array of awesome benefits. Part 3: Mind “Hack’s” Now time to get into the real “sauce.” 1. Reframing The Story One mind trick that can really help is reframing the story of your trauma, and actually understanding why the people who done this to you, actually did it. Like for example if you had a trauma with family, you could be like: “Oh yeah but it was there way of showing affection.” And like wise for other incidents.

(Don’t want to read? Scroll to the bottom to watch my video on this) Let me tell you a story, whenever I was younger I used to self sabotage all the time, I would go against my goals, skip working out, eat junk on a diet and etc. And it really made me feel bad, as of course nobody likes lying to themself. And the worst part was it would be on a downward spiral, as I would feel so guilty after messing up. This is no way to live. Because of how hard it was for me, I want to make this full guide to overcome self sabotage. Part 1: What is Self Sabotage really? All self sabotage really is, is just were your purposefully “sabotage” yourself and your goals like, if you say to yourself you will go to the gym at the new year, but then you just procrastinate and never do it, instead just playing video games, yet deep down you don’t want to do this really, but you still do. That is a good example of it. And it is by no means a nice thing, we all should look to eliminate it. Part 2: What is Self Sabotage caused by really? It can be caused by a variety of different things, but quite honestly usually it is due to poor mental health, unhealed trauma, anxiety, depression and things of that nature. Doing the self destructive habits are not good for your goals but it is how you cope with dealing with the poor mental health. Part 3: How Trauma Ties Into it All As mentioned before most of not all of self sabotage is caused by poor mental health. And I would argue out of all the mental health problems like depression, anxiety and etc. Trauma comes out on top as the most common reason for this, as being in survival mode will undeniably make you self sabotage. Part 4: The Solution The solution is honestly quite simple, heal your trauma. I mentioned anxiety, depression and etc can cause it too. But trauma healing also heals those too. So if you just follow the trauma healing method I tell you to do, you stay consistent, as a result you will beat self sabotage.

Loom vid on this! I used to believe trauma was something you were born with. I remember in school when I would sit in the classroom and people mentioned about trauma, and when people in my life would bring up trauma, they would do so in a very limiting belief kind of way, like “Oh that poor girl was born like that they can’t help it.” Things of that nature. This limited me and held me back. And I just want to say, trauma is by no means something you are born with; we are all born with no trauma. Trauma is just something most people sadly get from life as they grow up. Just wanted to clear this up, as this is a limiting belief that will limit your mental health journey.

I remember years ago I was very young and in primary school… I would always see on posters around me. “Don’t bottle up your emotions.” And of I went on YouTube at the time or I heard from family, teachers or whatever I would hear the same. And truth be told I honestly had no idea what they were really talking about. I thought of it as some vaque thing “mhm do not bottle up and suppress your emotions, sounds true.” But I never really understood why, but now I do it. It was about trauma, it was due to the fact of you bottle up your emotions / do not process them that = unprocessed emotion, which is trauma. And anyways of you try bottle up your emotions sooner or later you will end up “exploding” then releasing them in a bad way and doing something silly as a result. That is why it is important to heal trauma / process unprocessed emotion, it will save you from outbursts were you do something really bad. And not to mention the benefits of a regulated nervous system: 1. Better mental health 2. No longer in survival mode 3. Better mindset / decision making 4. Operating out of light energy 5. And much more So there you have it, make sure to not bottle up your emotions, and always process them in a good, safe and healthy way.

════════════════════════════════════ The Bullying The bus door shuts. I sit down near the back like usual. Two guys beside me. One across the aisle. One of them pulls out his phone and starts laughing. Not normal laughing. The kind where someone keeps looking at you while they do it. One of them turns the phone around. “Someone made this your TikTok profile picture.” It is a picture of me. An old one. From when I was younger. Edited. Stupid looking. Everyone on the bus starts laughing. And I cannot even check if it is real. I deleted social media months before. So now I just sit there with this feeling in my stomach that something is happening everywhere online and I cannot see it. ════════════════════════════════════ This is how the whole thing ends. But it does not start there. ════════════════════════════════════ January. Final year of school. Before Christmas break I had one real friend. Not a big group. Just one. During the break he leaves school. Just like that. So when January comes around, I walk back into school and there is no one to sit with. Lunch. Break. Classes. Just me. I start hanging around a group of guys in the year below. I call them friends because it feels better than saying I am alone. They are not friends. At first it is small things. Little jokes. Little comments. Nothing huge. So I play along. I laugh. I make jokes back. I act like a clown. That was the mistake. Because now they know I react. And reacting makes it fun. So the jokes get worse. A little worse. Then worse again. Days pass. Then weeks pass. Then months pass. Lunch time becomes the worst part of the day. They start calling me names. They try grabbing things from my pockets. Sometimes they take pictures of me. Soon it is not just them. It spreads. Whole groups laughing. One day a crowd forms. Dozens of people. Just standing there calling me names. I shout something back. A teacher walks over. And somehow I am the one who gets in trouble. ════════════════════════════════════ February.