One idea is to run a poll and let people vote - who has no ideas, who doesn’t want to engage regularly and so on. It would also show how many people don’t even want to vote. It’s easier than commenting, just pressing one button. Imo it’s nice to have a free group… or is it maybe too nice and pleasing? 🤔

I can think of overcommitment in relationships. It doesn’t apply only to “nice guys”/PP but to people in general. It can be rooted in internal judgments (like “I’m not doing enough”, “She’s probably unhappy”, etc.) or in covert contracts. Ofc the easiest solution would be to have a discussion with your partner, but that doesn’t always work, and sometimes the partner may expect you to develop self-awareness on your own. If there has already been a podcast about this, then just ignore my idea.

Hey @Daniel Munro Great article, thanks for sharing. Below are a few thoughts. Imo it would also be interesting to consider this topic from a relationship perspective. The first thing that comes to mind is situations where one partner is blaming the other. If you rely too much and too often on a non-defensive “dementia frame”, it can easily turn into simple conflict avoidance. In that case, your partner might start thinking that you don’t really care about the relationship and so on. That may seem obvious, but I still think it’s worth pointing out. In the Brad’s Pit example, I also think it’s important to mention that in a non-defensive situation you shouldn’t stay completely silent. It’s usually better to give some casual, dismissive responses like “yeah,” “uh-huh,” or “sure, why not.” Because if you stay silent, it can be automatically interpreted as if you’re surprised or somehow affected by the supposed “truth”/frame. Your body language should also communicate that you’re calm, not nervous, and generally unbothered. Ofc that requires some awareness of these situations and some practice. But once you get used to this “dementia frame”, it can become a very useful and almost effortless way to deal with direct manipulation.