The Princess and the Pea 👑

Over the last six weeks I've quietly protected a Morning Declutter time.Some of ou have even jined me at some BDoubling sessions. Small, consistent, non-negotiable. No willpower heroics, just showing up.

And the result?

My front guest bedroom has gone from "please don't open that door" to fully tidied and made over. I'm talking a princess could now visit, should she so desire. Pea under the mattress and all. 👑✨

Here's why I'm telling you, beyond the bragging rights. 😄

Confession: I've got some new-found energy lately, and a sneaking sense of self that's been missing for a while. Dangerous combination. It means I start thinking.

𝗦𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲'𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁.

Transformation doesn't fail because of strategy. It fails because behaviour doesn't change.

Something Jim said really landed for me:

𝗪𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗿𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗿𝘆 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗹𝘆, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝘀𝗸 𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀:

What do I need to do less of, to make room for better things in my life?

That's behavioural change in one sentence. Not "become a new person." Not "try harder." Just adjust the dial.

This is the part we so often skip. We treat change as addition - add a habit, add a system, add more discipline. But our ADHD brains don't have spare capacity sitting around waiting.

The real lever is subtraction: removing the "less helpful" things so the better ones finally have room to land. You can't pour something good into a glass that's already full.

And that bedroom? It got better because I subtracted - the clutter, the dread, 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗼𝗺-𝗯𝗼𝘅 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝘆. Space made, room transformed. The princess is just the proof.

It reminded me of a simple tool I used to use in Operations Management. I gave it an ADHD lens, reshaped it a little, and thought I'd share it here.

For our brains, "be more disciplined" rarely works.

𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀: