Over explaining is chasing validation...and that kills attraction.

@James Lulkovitz Creating mystery is what keeps women chasing you because it triggers their curiosity. You do it by how you look, walk, talk, dress, and carry yourself. It something that triggers their primal biological need to find a mate. I am 54 and at the gym, I have had 20 something year old women preening, orbiting my space, and mirroring my movements. What I have been doing is using anti aging cream and learning to be more stoic. A woman will pull every trick in the book and test to see if a man will chase her or seek validation from him. She will pull away and the moment a man flinches and moves to her, she will write him off. She is looking for that stability. If you pass, then she will then know you are safe and stay with you.

I stopped singing in the symphony chorus after they tried to give me extra work without pay (develop a seating chart for the group). The symphony conductor got mad at me. They offered me the section leader role, but I turned that down with the amount of work and money it would cost me. The chorus is purposely volunteer so they can get around industry requirements. They can do this shit so they dont have to pay us. I stopped dating apps as I see them as a portal into the abyss and have more fun just going out and working on pre-selection. On the same level, working on my Instagram so it becomes my dating app.

Some are around for a lifetime, for years, months, days, or just hours.