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The Men's Wellness Club
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6 contributions to The Men's Wellness Club
6d •
Day 25: 50 days of discipline
HALF WAY THROUGH LET’S GO!!! Physical win: small run today Accountability win: editing a full video on YouTube Mental win: podcast for 1 hour Spiritual win: spent time on my own for lunch with myself
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@Windom James Love it! People here are so nice and I've learnt so much. Big thanks to Tom for building this community. How's it been for you?
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@Windom James I joined this community because I wanted a place where people share ideas and help each other learn. So far, I've really liked seeing different perspective and learning new things. I'm hoping to learn more about communication skills and mindsets and regular self improvement stuff as well. Also, love connecting with like minded people.
13d •
SHOULD I READ ANY BOOKS IF YES WHICH ONE?
Hello everyone as i am on improving myself as much can in teenage around 15 16yrs of age i am rn . So i would like some advice on which book u would recommend or u have read to improve yourself , ur mindset improve ur social skills and overall helped you a lot . As there are any things rn going on i will not be able to dedicate hours to books only some time here and there so are there any book recommendations ? Any books which u had read and felt like amazing or any book which u hoped u found earlier to improv ur life. thanks!
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@Bhavya Hello @Bhavya Hello Hey, first off, overthinking is totally normal, it happens with everyone even to the confident ones. You're only 16 ig, im 19 and only learnt that I overthink everything like 6 months ago. Trying to understand why helped me a lot. For me, it came from my insecurities many of which werent even mine but other people's leached onto me. I later learnt that other people are worried about their own insecurities, no one really cares. So dont worry about anything, just try to give your "genuine" best not a "perfect" version of yourself. I can relate to that a lot, when I was in school I used to be the introverted kid who doesnt talk much so naturally had less friends and felt lonely. Later, I found this Minecraft server, the friends I made there even though they were just online I think were some of the best people I'd met. We'd talked a lot, about our lives, plans, etc etc. For some reason we lost our connection and it hurt because it felt I lost some of my best friends ever because I wasnt mature enough. Over time, I learnt that people come in our life for certain phases, and they always teach us something. Missing them is normal, but it doesnt mean you did something wrong. For your current friends, if you feel talking to them makes you seem desperate then remember- a true friend listens. Not 24/7 of course, but when it matters. If someone gets annoyed just because you expressed youself then they're not the right person. Something which I have learnt about the best friendships is that they come from being youself. When you stop trying to impress people or seek their validation, the people who stay are the ones you actually connect with. There's a really good book called "The Like switch" its all about making friends if you want that its really great but it wont help unless you apply the lessons. Lastly, try not to worry too much about losing friends. If someone can’t accept the real you, then they’re meant for a version of you that isn’t authentic. New people will come into your life, and the right ones will stay.
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@Bhavya Hello just wanted to say this, you've got to build a beautiful garden to attract beautiful butterflies. If you are a high value person, you'll attract people who are high value too, whether its friendship or relationship. Work on yourself daily and make those small steps count. It's going to take some time but it'll be so worth it.
14d •
COMMUNICATION SKILLS MASTERCLASS COMING SOON
Super excited to give you guys almost 2 hours of FREE knowledge on communication skills! This is like a YouTube video on steroids so I really hope you enjoy this as lots of effort was put in to make this happen. Hopefully it will be available in the next week or so🫶
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This is exactly what I needed! Thank you so much!
20d •
Feel like I haven't really learned how to think yet
I mean, this is the case since my childhood, not only now, but this always screwed me up over the span of my life. Maybe some of you know what I'm talking about, and recognise themself in that, unfortunately. And sorry if my post isn't clear, to be honest it isn't clear to me either, still foggy to me, just like it is, but this is why I'm writing it. (I swear I CAN'T write a short message, sorry guys. But I've seen a lot of people open up in some posts lately, and that's a great thing really, I love this community. Anyway let's start.) The problem is that my mind is always kind of "foggy," and most of the time, I can't make out anything of my thoughts, even when I'm actually trying to focus on them. I always want to think about one trivial thing, that shouldn't need this amount of thinking, but this is apparently already too hard. When I try to, like imagining myself in a scenario, what would happen and everything, I am just kind of stuck in a loop, never really advancing in that thought. Like I said in my introduction post, I can't really ever focus on one task -- because my mind is always wandering off to something more "enjoyable" I guess. Whenever I'm some minutes into something, I will lose all my momentum because my brain is always up to something else. And this was really screwing me over for school, when people didn't understand why I was almost never doing my homework, because of that. People called me lazy, and honestly I maybe was, at least a bit. But I always had this weight, that I fell made it way harder for me to actually get the thing done than anyone else. Even today, I feel like I have all the will in the world to do things but I'm always thinking about something else and that just stop it. And even out of self-growth or work or just tasks in general, I can't think about stupid things like what am I gonna eat, what am I gonna do today? Each time I genuinely give it a shot, it just kind of breaks me, I end sometimes crying because I can't make a fricking decision. And as long as I haven't finished the scenario I was playing in my head or whatever, I WON'T get out of my head, which means unless I do it, I will not be able to do something else, like something as trivial as watching a YouTube video, just because my mind is always on this thing and 10 others. It's screwing me over out of work in my personal life even, always catching up to me and that's really the main reason while I always feel like a weight, being depressed at least a bit at all time.
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I can relate a lot to this. I used to feel this way, stuck in thoughts, foggy, overthinking everything and felt I couldnt focus on anything. It was so exhausting that sometimes it would make me feel depressed. What helped me a bit was fixing my diet, taking in minerals and good fats and omega 3s. I started doing brain games and meditation. Going into nature and just hanging out with friends and family helped too. Its not instant, but over time it gave me clarity and a sense of momentum. I used to overthink a lot about literally everything and it was the core of this problem, so I learnt to relax and soften my thoughts and it improved everything. This is just what helped me personally. I'm not sure if it will be the same for you, but I hope you can find a bit clarity too. You got this brother 💪
24d •
Need some advice
Hey everyone! My name's Siddhant,19, and have been on this self improvement journey for about 6 months. Everything seems to be going well except my social skills. I get anxious talking to people(especially around girls), and end up staying quiet even when I do want to talk. This has been really bugging me, and I have reached a point where I dont want to keep ignoring it. If anyone has gone through this or has any advice, I'd really appreciate your guidance. Thank you
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@Tom Bidgood thanks a lot man🙏 You're right, I havent really practised my social skills so everything feels way more high pressure than it should. I'll start small as you mentioned and just focus on small friendly interactions
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@Luke Tearle thank you so much for the suggestion! I've heard a bit about this book and really like the idea behind it. I'll definitely check it out and let you know what I think.
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