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12h •
Deep Flow State
Hi everyone, Wanted to throw a topic out there and see what all you thought about it. Lately I've been making a lot of changes in my life and things are really starting to align to create the type of life that I want. It's been a long time coming, but with this move out to Los Angeles things are really starting to come together for me. We talked about Flow State and being in the zone, in sports this is also called the performance Zone and it is your state of optimal physical and mental performance. The same is true with any performing art, dance, theater, or even when you are in the moment interacting with a woman who you are just getting to know. The idea here is that you can be in your Flow State for short bursts of time or brief moments but I think it's possible to live your life in some sort of a sustained flow state. It doesn't mean that you're going to be in the zone waiting in the DMV line or while you're stuck in traffic, but I think it's possible to just have a deep sense of flow in your life where you know you can handle things that come your way, you can adapt, you can deal with difficulties but you have a very grounded sense of yourself and core belief that you deserve this success that you want as long as you're willing to do what you need to get it. Anyway, I'm starting to experience more of this now that my life is aligning with this new move, doesn't mean that every day is going to be easy or guaranteed success by any means but as I've made progress on aligning my life to my goals, I found it my flow state is more constant and I'm feeling it at a more core level. Have any of you guys experienced being in a more persistent or constant flow state? It's not as intense as those short bursts but I do feel like it's starting to be a more constant feeling that I carry around with me.
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Great this channel looks like "applied flow" how to use the concept in every day life. I've read MC's original book but will dig into this channel
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Layering on top of that, it's interesting to consider that you have your own Flow State and then a woman you're interacting with has her own Flow State to. That would be an interesting concept to think about, if your Flow State doesn't match hers, for example if she's so distractible and scatterbrained, you may not connect with her no matter what you say or what you come up with in your approach. Thinking back, the women who I connected really well with were women who I felt like we had the same energy, I know that's very wishy-washy but maybe it's that we were in the same level of Flow State or something like that. Once in awhile there's a woman that you talk to and you know it just clicks from the beginning it's not about the little gimmicks or little things you say to keep her entertained, its just ON.
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My Daily Journal
Hi everyone, In the interest of personal development, I am starting a daily journal on here. I'll post new entries at the bottom of the thread. Feel free to comment on anything I write. A few times in my life, when I've taken goals or projects VERY seriously, I have kept a journal, which makes me more committed to the process. As I mentioned, moving from the DC area to Sothern California is a big move for me and I'm ready to start a new phase / chapter of my life. Each day when I post, I'll highlight the key things I did that day and any thoughts, musings, or recaps of social events observations. I want to keep this journal out in the open so others can see it, and I can hold myself more accountable. -Sanders
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Day 5: really pushed today with driving to try to make more progress. Got as far as on the way to Amarillo Texas so if I push tomorrow I can make it to Southern California with about 16 more hours of driving. Today as I was driving, I had a lot of downtime so I did some more thinking and I also called up some friends and acquaintances that I had not talked to in a while, now that I'm moving I feel like I'm getting a fresh start so I reached out to a few people had been out of touch with. Sometimes we get too wrapped up or focused on things in life and we isolate ourselves or Turtle up in our own little world, sometimes this has its merits and allows us to really lock in and focus but other times really need to stay in contact with people. I flip-flop between these two modes, crazy Focus intense mode, and social outgoing mode. I need to do a better job with finding a balance between both and not just going hardcore one or the other. Once I touch down in La that's going to be one of my goals going forward, having a better balance and being intentional with it. Certainly a lot to look forward to, hope to make it to my destination by late tonight Chip away at those goals one day at a time I'm glad I am doing this Daily Journal and now that I've been at it for a few days I can see that it's really helping me to stay focused and giving me some more personal accountability
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Day 6: arrived in Los Angeles Santa monica, spent all day driving. Amazing nature scenery as I passed through new Mexico and Arizona. I could see trains passing by the highway with the steppes in the background with mountains off in the distance and it looked just like a western movie. In another day and age I could imagine Buffalo herds and bison. Nature never ceases to inspire. Anyway I've had a long drive and I had a lot of time to think. I caught up with old friends that I had not talked to in a while to let them know about my move and reconnected with a few people. First order of business is I'm actually going to be applying for a high profile soccer position in the area, a colleague and friend of mine had been encouraging me to do it for a while and I just never felt like I was in the right place or it was the right time to do it. So I'm going to go for it. Southern California is probably the #1 area for soccer in the country, which was why I moved so now that I'm here I'm going to get organized and start the process. Even if I don't get the exact desired outcome, I will learn something from it and the next opportunity will arise. I have a good feeling about this so I'll just take it one step at a time. I have a lot to be thankful for and I want to make sure I don't take that for granted. I've had highs and lows in my life and I know what it's like to be on both ends of it so I'm always happy to help others.
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What is being authentic?
I've seen a couple of posts and comments/concerns from guys here about not suspending disbelief and just following the action plan laid out by MS. Some guys say, "ya but that's not authentic." And MS already debunks this limiting belief so well. When you shave your face are you authentic? How about when you brush your teeth? How about going to the gym? How about getting a good tailor? A good barber? We are all curating the best version of ourselves everyday, yes it's all smoke a mirrors (but that's ok). Don't believe me? Just be your authentic self and skip personal hygiene for a week and tell me how that goes for your social life. Merry Christmas and stay in the fight.
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Interesting topic. When you decide to take an action (or not), there are really only 3 drivers that I can think of behind that action, logic, emotion, or instinct. We flip flop between these drivers all the time when we act or find reasons not to. When a guy says "im only making authentic choices" or "im only making authentic actions, to me he's trying to choose one of the 3 types of drivers and sticking with that as his stimulus. However most guys i dont think stop for a moment and question whether the driver for their decision is emotional, logical, or instinctive. To me, being authentic means having your actions aligned with your intent or purpose in that moment. However "being authentic" can also be abused as a defense mechanism or shield for taking action. Imagine I walk up to the 50ft high dive in a pool and I feel fear when I look down. If I follow my authentic feeling, my emotional physiology is telling me not to jump because I feel fear. But I can overcome it by just jumping and building the experience to desensitized myself. Bottom line: acting on being authentic or not it has two sides to it, going with your gut feeling while you're in your positive Flow State or it can also be a defense mechanism to hide behind that blocks progress
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Sometimes what we think is authentic actually isn't because of layers of social conditioning
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What’s the right way to getting girls attention while pursuing your option?
What would you do if az women that you think is cute said “ooo who did you pull this time?” But don’t want to push her away but at the same time create space and keep her attracted still but give you that line and sink so she would put you in that position? What’s protocol for that?
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Use a technique called cocky and funny, and be playful. Over-exaggerate. Ooo who did you pull this time? Eva Longoria 😉 its a frame test to see if you comfortable handling social pressure.
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Tell us something you have learned from Michael
For me, it is: give people as much value as you can, solve as many problems as you can, and ask for nothing in return.
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Helped put in perspective that cold approach is like hunting and social circle game is like farming. You can have a good night here and there but the cold approach but long term, social circle building wins out.
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@glenn-alpert-1949
Soccer Coaching, Author, MBA, Entrepreneurship, always willing to help others with personal development.
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