I love this one too....

@Lone Kirkegaard OMG...this cracked me up! I can spend hours writing or typing out my perfect plan and then not do any of it! Planning is one of my favorite activities....very nervous system soothing. I can organise absolutely anything from my bed and in my PJ's. Then I get up... see something very enticing and the whole day is gone on a giant distraction!

@Myriam Sissoko I am just going to like this! I can't understand it....but I like it!

@Chris Roller What you’ve shared touches on some genuinely important ideas, and it makes sense that those explanations helped things “click.” Both Andrew Huberman and Gabor Maté have brought aspects of ADHD neuroscience to a wider audience in ways that many people find validating. A few clarifications from the research side might help deepen the picture. Regarding the brain networks: neuroscientists usually describe three large-scale systems involved in attention regulation — the Default Mode Network (DMN), the Task-Positive (or Task-Related) Network (TPN), and the Salience Network, which helps switch between the two. In people without ADHD, the DMN (internal mentation, mind-wandering) and TPN (goal-directed focus) tend to be anticorrelated — when one is active, the other quiets down. In ADHD, studies do often show reduced suppression of the DMN during tasks. In simple terms, “background mental chatter” keeps intruding when you’re trying to focus. Some research also finds weaker coordination of the switching system, rather than both networks working together in a helpful way. So it’s not that the networks are harmoniously coordinated — more that the brain has difficulty disengaging from the DMN and stabilising task mode. Many researchers now see ADHD as a regulation and switching issue rather than a pure attention deficit. Dopamine plays a key role in stabilising task-relevant networks and filtering distractions, which is why stimulant medication can be so effective. On Dr. Maté’s perspective: his work has been deeply meaningful for many people because it emphasises compassion and the impact of early experience. Trauma and chronic stress can absolutely affect attention, emotional regulation, and nervous system functioning, and they can also coexist with ADHD. However, the broader scientific consensus is that ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition with a strong genetic component. Heritability estimates are around 70–80%, and brain differences are detectable early in development. Environmental factors — including stress, attachment patterns, sleep, toxins, and adversity — are understood to influence how ADHD presents and how impairing it becomes, rather than being the sole cause.

Ahhha.... I get it now! Thank you for your replies everybody... I am a somatic coach so it reminds me of IFS (integration of all the different parts and all of them welcome). I asked ChatGPT what the difference was and she said: Shadow Work: 👉 “What have I pushed into the dark?” 👉 Focus on content of the shadow Integration Therapy: 👉 “How do all my parts live together safely?” 👉 Focus on relationship between parts Good to know!

I have sold 12 now - so that is £12 from a tiny tiny acorn per week. As a very low paid gym group class leader that makes my earning much more respectable. I'm happy I pushed myself to finish this now...