Unspoken expectations are resentments in waiting. This is the core of the "E" in SEA Change. Most fights aren't about what happened; they're about what was expected and never said. I (Sean) was a master at this. I'd be fuming that an empty pizza box was on the counter, thinking, "She knows I hate clutter!". But I had never clearly communicated that need. I was mad about a rule I never shared. That is a recipe for resentment. Application: What is one "rule" you have in your head that you've never actually shared with your spouse?

With all the talk of boundaries, healing, and schedules... don't forget the FUN. Laughter is one of the quickest ways to regulate a dysregulated nervous system. It releases endorphins and lowers cortisol. If your home has felt heavy lately—whether from marital strain, financial stress, or just the weight of the world—intentionally inject some lightness tonight. Watch a comedy. Play a board game. Look at old funny photos. Reminder: You don't have to wait for the "perfect time" to be happy. You can snatch a moment of joy right in the middle of the mess. Question: What is your favorite Christmas movie to watch for a laugh? (Elf? Home Alone? Christmas Vacation?) 🎄

We want this community to feel like a safe space where we can all support each other's marriage journeys. Let's start with introductions! You can use this simple format: Hey, I'm from ________________. I'm here because ________________. The biggest thing I'm working on in my marriage right now is ________________. Examples: - "Hey, I'm Sarah from Texas. I'm here because we keep having the same fights over and over and I'm exhausted." - "I'm Mike from Ohio. I'm here because my wife and I feel like roommates and I want that spark back." - "I'm Lisa from Florida. I'm here because my husband won't engage in fixing our problems and I'm trying to figure out how to create change on my own." - No judgment here - just real people working on real relationships. The more we know about each other, the better we can support and encourage one another. Drop your intro below! 👇

We are officially transitioning from Thanksgiving mode to the December rush. Before we turn the calendar page, let's anchor ourselves back in the "He" (Spiritual Health). It is so easy to let the "Them" (obligations, parties, shopping) crowd out the "He" in December. But peace is not found in a perfectly executed schedule; it is found in a centered soul. "Be still, and know that I am God." — Psalm 46:10. Notice it doesn't say "Be busy and know," or "Be perfect and know." It says Be Still. Action: Before you check your to-do list for next week, spend 5 minutes in silence or prayer. Ask God: What do You want for me this December?

The world says today is for rushing, buying, and doing. We say today is for Resting. Yesterday required a lot of emotional output. Whether it was amazing or draining, your "social battery" has likely been depleted. In our framework, we have to refill the "Me" bucket before we can move effectively into the Christmas season. Challenge: Resist the urge to launch immediately into the next thing. Wear the sweatpants. Eat the leftovers. Take the nap. Thought for the day: "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." — Matthew 11:28. Rest isn't laziness; it's a spiritual discipline. Question: On a scale of 1-10, how full is your energy tank today?