At this time of year, it can be easy to get caught up in the madness of it all and you may struggle to get a few minutes "quiet headspace" for you. I've been using this Body Scan method for a few years now and I was reminded about it in my Calm app recently - a quick share as it may help you too. Happy Friday x https://www.calm.com/blog/emergency-calm-how-to-calm-down-in-2-minutes#:~:text=If%20you're%20reading%20this%2C%20you%20might%20need,**Bring%20your%20attention%20back%20to%20the%20breath**

Often limiting beliefs are the things people have shared with us over the years that frame our beliefs. Often they are not rooted in truth. However, to move past them takes time, it takes courage and it takes patience with yourself. To start, focus on telling yourself a different story about you. Imagine that you were talking to your bestie and they were asking for your advice on something they wanted to do and you knew they could do it - what would you say? How would you say it ? How could you support them? Starting with those 3 things for YOURSELF will help you change your mindset around Limiting Beliefs. Let me know one positive, encouraging thing you are saying to yourself this week...?

Moving from the Drama Triangle to the Empowerment Triangle requires conscious effort and a fundamental shift in perspective. The key lies in shifting focus from problems to possibilities, your inner state from fear to calm and curiosity, and your behavior from reactive to proactive and intentional. Anyone can initiate this shift, as changing one's own role breaks the dysfunctional dynamic and invites others to step into more empowering roles. Tools and practices like developing self-awareness, using empowering language, and holding healthy boundaries are crucial for sustained change. So how do you flip from Victim to Creator... Persecutor to Challenger... Rescuer to Coach? (this last one was most impactful for me!) Victim >> Creator: Focuses on a vision and desired outcomes, taking full responsibility for choosing their response and initiating action. They ask, "What do I want to create?". Persecutor >> Challenger: Encourages growth and learning by asking tough questions and challenging assumptions in a supportive way, rather than criticising. They focus on improvement and accountability. Rescuer >> Coach: Empowers others to find their own solutions by guiding them with curiosity and support, building their independence and resilience. They ask empowering questions, like "What are your options?". Sometimes people get stuck and our role is not to feel we have to change them, but to consider what we can impact for ourselves. Curious to hear have you been stuck in the drama triangle and if so, what's been most useful from this post?

The drama triangle is a social model of human interaction involving a Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer. It describes an often destructive cycle, where individuals move between these roles - escalating conflict and eroding psychological safety. Sometimes it's about understanding where you are in the triangle... Victim: This role is characterised by a sense of helplessness and a feeling of being at the mercy of external forces or people. Victims often feel powerless to change their circumstances and look for someone else to save them. Persecutor: This role is defined by blaming and controlling others. Persecutors may act out of anger or a desire to dominate a situation. Rescuer: This role is characterised by the desire to be helpful, but it often stems from a need to be needed rather than from a healthy desire to empower others. Rescuers may enable the victim's behavior and end up feeling drained Want to break the cycle? You can do that by flipping roles into more empowering ones like Creator, Challenger and Coach. I'll talk about them tomorrow. Any of these sound familiar to you?