This came up for me again today and it reminded me why I included this exercise a few days ago in Day 23 of the challenge, because it goes much deeper than it sounds. My story- I was never allowed to accept anything including a glass of water when we went visiting because this would inconvenience the people. This also meant I was too afraid to ask to use the toilet in case it put someone out. Ridiculous, I know, but that was my beliefs and my conditioning. When I later heard that not allowing people to give to you is actually doing them a disservice, it honestly threw me. I had lived my whole life like this, well and truly into my adult years so I had to revisit everything I’d ever been taught. That’s when so much clicked into place. I finally understood and realised why my family never gave me what I wanted, ever!!!!! even for presents. As a kid, Santa always “ran out” before he got to me. I got things, but never ever what I truly wanted. I learned very early that: - I shouldn’t ask - I didn’t deserve - And if I wanted something, I’d better get it myself Because I never said what I wanted, I believed disappointment was inevitable. Then, years later, I started seeing the same belief in clients, not always as extreme, but definitely present. Especially in women and mothers. We go without so everyone else can have what they need. And we call it love… but it comes at a cost. So now I teach this: - Ask for what you want - Tell people - Tell the universe Giving is easy for most of us. Receiving and accepting, well that’s the real challenge. Even now, I notice I sometimes struggle to recognise what I actually want. Which is why I use this exercise: Make a list of 100+ things you want. It sounds simple. It’s not. Most people get stuck around 20. This exercise gently rewires the brain. It forces you to think beyond survival and obligation and into desire, possibility, and choice. How can we manifest a life we want if we don’t even know what that is? If you’re willing to try it, comment below and let me know. I’d love to hear how it lands for you.

Right now in your life, where would support actually make the biggest difference? You can answer with one word, a sentence, or a list, whatever feels right. • Emotional • Mental • Practical • Direction or clarity • Permission to rest • Someone to truly understand you You don’t have to explain unless you want to.And you’re not weak for needing support, you’re human. I’ll go first… 💛

I’m a big believer in not burying the past. Not reliving it.Not re-traumatising ourselves.But actually understanding it. Because when we don’t step back and look at the bigger picture, we tend to repeat the same patterns. Different people, different circumstances, but the same dynamics playing out again and again. Same lesson, new packaging. For me, healing has never been about pretending something didn’t happen. The real strength comes from learning what the experience was trying to teach us, so we don’t have to keep learning the same lesson on repeat. Much of what I share, here and elsewhere, comes from my own lived experience. I wrote Crazy Stupid Love based on my own story, not because I had it all figured out, but because I was willing to look honestly at what had happened and what it was showing me. I also speak openly about narcissistic abuse on Love Light Inspire the Podcast. There are many episodes there for anyone who wants to listen quietly, reflect, or simply feel less alone. No pressure, just resources if and when you’re ready. My own story included narcissistic abuse and, at the time, very little in the way of boundaries. Not because I was weak, but because I didn’t yet have the awareness or tools. Taking responsibility for my part wasn’t about blame, it was about reclaiming my power. Installing boundaries where there were none changed everything. That’s also why I do the work I do. I understand how these dynamics feel, and I understand how patterns form, and more importantly, how they can be changed. So I’ll leave you with a gentle reflection question. Only answer if it feels right for you: Looking back now, what lesson do you think one of your past experiences was trying to teach you? No fixing.No judgement.Just curiosity.

Music is one of the fastest ways to shift our vibration.It can lift us out of a low mood, calm a racing mind, or spark joy when we need it most. Today, let’s make a community playlist — the songs that lift you, move you, and help you step into a higher frequency. Here are two of my go-to’s when I need to change my energy fast:✨ Happy – Pharrell Williams (1-hour version) — instant smiles, every time.✨ 888 Hz Abundance Gate — perfect for clearing energy and opening your vibration to abundance. We’re not talking sad breakup songs here — we’re talking about the ones that make you feel alive.The tracks that lift you up, shift your thinking, and remind you that you’re powerful. 💬 Drop your favourites below — what’s your go-to song or playlist when you know it’s time to move through an emotion and rise higher? Let’s build a “Change Makers Vibe List” together.

Sometimes life gets loud, too many thoughts, worries, and things happening all at once. When that happens, a few simple words can help us feel calm again. It might be something like “Just breathe,” “You’ve got this,” or “Let it go.”These words are like anchors, they help us steady ourselves when everything around us feels like a storm. Everyone has different words or phrases that help them feel grounded or safe inside. So let’s share some ideas and help each other build a little list of reminders we can all come back to. What words or affirmations do you say to yourself when things feel hard or uncertain?