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Breaking Patterns by Understanding Them
I’m a big believer in not burying the past.
Not reliving it.Not re-traumatising ourselves.But actually understanding it.
Because when we don’t step back and look at the bigger picture, we tend to repeat the same patterns. Different people, different circumstances, but the same dynamics playing out again and again. Same lesson, new packaging.
For me, healing has never been about pretending something didn’t happen. The real strength comes from learning what the experience was trying to teach us, so we don’t have to keep learning the same lesson on repeat.
Much of what I share, here and elsewhere, comes from my own lived experience. I wrote Crazy Stupid Love based on my own story, not because I had it all figured out, but because I was willing to look honestly at what had happened and what it was showing me.
I also speak openly about narcissistic abuse on Love Light Inspire the Podcast. There are many episodes there for anyone who wants to listen quietly, reflect, or simply feel less alone. No pressure, just resources if and when you’re ready.
My own story included narcissistic abuse and, at the time, very little in the way of boundaries. Not because I was weak, but because I didn’t yet have the awareness or tools. Taking responsibility for my part wasn’t about blame, it was about reclaiming my power. Installing boundaries where there were none changed everything.
That’s also why I do the work I do. I understand how these dynamics feel, and I understand how patterns form, and more importantly, how they can be changed.
So I’ll leave you with a gentle reflection question. Only answer if it feels right for you:
Looking back now, what lesson do you think one of your past experiences was trying to teach you?
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