Lately, I’ve been noticing a quiet shift..not dramatic, not urgent.. just a growing awareness that certain patterns no longer fit the person I’m becoming. People pleasing.Comparison.Perfectionism disguised as “high standards. Waiting until I feel ready before starting. For a long time, these habits felt protective. They helped me belong. They helped me stay safe. They helped me feel “enough.” But over time, they started costing more than they gave. This coffee-time reflection isn’t about fixing yourself or pushing harder. It's about noticing what you might be outgrowing and giving yourself permission to let it go. Not all growth looks like adding something new. Sometimes growth looks like setting something down. If you’re in a season where motivation feels different, or old strategies aren’t working the way they used to, you’re not broken. You might just be changing. What are you letting go of ?

I and many of my clients have something in common. A mean coach lives inside me..maybe more than one. They want to protect me. They mean well. But their coaching used to cause me to spiral frequently. This can still happen to me but I've learned to either turn them off altogether or reason with them. The rough love and warnings don't work to help me reach my goals no matter how well intentioned they are. If your life had a reset button, what’s the first thing you’d turn off

If today feels a little flat not bad, not great, just… muted you’re not broken. Sometimes what we need isn’t motivation or a breakthrough. It's permission to slow down without calling it failure. Maybe you don’t need to optimize today No need to figure out your whole life You don’t need to earn rest. One small, grounding thing is enough. A walk. A good meal. A real conversation. Or doing absolutely nothing..on purpose. If this is your pick-me up: take it. If it’s not your day: that’s okay too. #YourFriendlyNeighbourhoodCoach

Perspective is borrowed before it’s learned. I remember a friend sharing with me that all creativity is a mining operation. With one things being derivative of the last. That things we are into now are influenced directly or indirectly by things that came before. In my life I have realized that this applies to science, family, relationships. Good or bad we are all relying on those who came before us and those who are around us for good ideas. I have had to come to that conclusion for myself and it was hard because I had absorbed a lot of the idea that I had to do everything on my own to be a "real adult". This idea was exhausting. I am so glad for my family and friends who helped me come out of this. It took me a long time to realize that my belief about “doing everything on my own” wasn’t wisdom it was a borrowed perspective I hadn’t examined yet. What’s something you were taught about being an adult that you’re starting to question and who or what helped you see it differently?