I Got Rejected by a Business Networking Group and It Was the Best Thing to Ever Happen to Me
This morning, I walked into a business networking meeting in Doncaster feeling excited, open, and ready to connect. The day before, I’d spoken to the Area Leader, Jo, who told me the hub didn’t have a mortgage broker and that I should come along. She made me feel like I’d be a great fit. I shared my details - my location, how long I’ve been in business, all the things you’d normally check before inviting someone in. Everything seemed aligned. So I showed up. I participated. I vibed with the room. I genuinely connected with the members and guests. It felt like a place I could contribute to and grow inside of. But the moment I told Jo I’d love to join the hub, everything changed. Her whole energy flipped. She stiffened, avoided eye contact, and said: “I have to be honest… you don’t meet a couple of the criteria to join as a member.” When I asked what criteria, she told me: - I didn’t live within 5km - I hadn’t been in business for at least 3 years Both of which I had already told her - the day before. I stood there stunned for a moment. Not because I can’t handle rejection. Not because I wasn’t “good enough.” But because I realised something important: I was misled to get another guest in the room. And as the youngest person there by at least 10 years, it was clear she thought I wouldn’t know better. But I’ve been networking for nearly a decade. I’ve built businesses, run businesses, and sat in more rooms than I can count. I know exactly how this game works. And in that moment, I realised something even bigger: I am done shrinking myself to fit into rooms run by people who can’t see my value. I walked out feeling frustrated, a little embarrassed, and honestly… underestimated. Again. But here’s the plot twist: That sting? That moment of “wow, not this again”? It lit a fire in me I haven’t felt in years. A clean, sharp, directional fire. The kind that says: - “I’m going to make a name for myself.” - “I’m going to become undeniable.” - “I’m going to build something so strong, so respected, so impactful… that the rooms who overlooked me will one day realise their mistake.”