The Most Telling Sign You're Actually Growing!!

Hello family ✨

Hope your week is going great.

Here's something to sit with this Wednesday evening, morning, afternoon... or it might even be Thursday morning for you already depending on where you are.

The message I have for you today is that the most obvious and most telling sign that you're actually growing and developing is when you begin to see yourself clearly.

What does that mean?

This means that you become aware of your wounds.

You become aware of your reactions. Your motivations.

But the biggest one is this... your impact on others.

When you don't become aware of your wounds, they sit in the dark.

And they become projections that you end up projecting onto people.

They are like an unconscious programmes you are running on and end up impacting how you navigate life, how you interpret situations, how you interact within your relationships without you even realizing it.

You might say you're growing. That you're learning. That you're developing yourself.

But if you're not looking at the impact of the way you're interacting with the world and people around you, then there's a gap in your self-awareness.

This requires deep self reflection.

And in regards to people, it requires you to literally put yourself in their shoes in order to see things from their perspective.

This will help with raising your awareness levels.

This is how real empathy works.

And this is where true understanding comes from.

You begin to learn why people are the way they are.

And more deeply, more importantly, you learn why you are the way you are.

Where your habits and behaviors stem from.

How you ended up where you are.

Why things are the way they are.

You can never be a growing individual if you refuse or are unable to see the ways you're impacting the world around you.

That takes a high degree of accountability.

And it doesn't only take accountability. It takes humility.

To become aware that you may be impacting people negatively.

That you may be projecting your pain and your wounds onto others.

That takes a tremendous amount of humility and accountability.

Because in order for you to actually develop and grow, you have to humble yourself.

You have to be able to see the parts of yourself that you're not that proud of.

That's the difference between actually growing versus wanting to grow but not putting yourself in uncomfortable situations.

There's a very deep quote by Carl Jung when he said... you can never fully develop yourself and truly see yourself unless you put light on the unconscious. On the shadows. On the darkness.

So the biggest sign that you're actually growing is when you become aware of what your wounds are.

Where your motivations stem from.

And the part they play in how you engage and interact with the world around you.

And I'll say this...

If you don't care or don't think that becoming aware of how you're impacting other people matters?

That's a sign of emotional immaturity and superiority.

And you can never in your life grow if you have those two components sitting at the forefront of your mind.

The work is deep and painful.

But this is what real healing looks like.

It's all about self study.

Revealing and healing bit by bit.

Which will bring you more clarity and understanding of reality.