Hopefully this is helpful for someone.
There are a bunch of things we can do this weekend if we want coffee dates next week.
When I saw it this clearly...
NOT having coffee dates became a CHOICE for me instead of a CURSE inflicted on me.
1 - 1-1 warm outreach to people who know you. [use the "with your permission" framework]
Most likely to get the best responses.
2 - 1-1 cold outreach to people who don't know you. [with your permission framework]
2nd most likely to get good responses.
3 - 1-many warm outreach [such as posting on social media]
Might get something. Has kinda sucked for me for partner getting.
4 - 1-many cold outreach [I'm doing it with cold email, could be done with paid ads]
Prolly won't work worth a damn if #1 isn't already working for you.
Every day I don't do some combination of 1, 2, and 4 I'm CHOOSING to not get coffee dates and partners.
I don't know what YOU should or shouldn't do.
I can only tell you what I'm doing and how it's working.
It might only work for me. I might be special in some way.
Maybe the coffee date fairy sprinkled me with magic dust while I was sawing logs.
I don't know, I was asleep.