Understand that there is a massive difference between staying positive... ...and being so positive that it turns toxic. It's important to be optimistic. It's important to stay positive. But no amount of positivity will ever spare you from the reality of the life you've created through your actions and decisions. You cannot be happy with your body if you don't take care of it. You cannot be happy with your career if you haven't been executing at a high level. You cannot be happy with your relationships if you treat people like trash. You cannot be happy with your finances if you don't manage them effectively. You cannot be happy with your standards if you cut corners and compromise. You cannot be happy with yourself if you haven't been keeping your promises. Even if you try to convince yourself otherwise. Eventually... You will be forced to face the truth. ...and if your positive outlook has prevented you from taking the necessary actions to address these shortcomings... You're gonna be pissed. I call this "toxic positivity." Because the truth is... Committing yourself to the actions required to build yourself and your life into something you're proud of will always be a requirement for true happiness and fulfillment. Quit listening to anyone who tells otherwise. That includes yourself. ~ Andy Frisella

Good morning gentlemen, Since I began this journey of becoming a gentleman it has been such a blessing for me. There was a time in my life that I felt that I didn’t exist, that no one even noticed me. I felt an invisible and just a no one. Once I began to work on myself and I began to change my look, people started noticing me, I mean people would make an effort to not only acknowledge me but to make it a point to make contact with me. Now, at first I felt uncomfortable going from people not noticing me to when I walk in a place whether inside or out I became the center piece of that environment. People would want to get to know me, offer assistance when I came into establishments, or just want to be around me. Now, no matter where I go I receive compliments people ask if they can take my picture or even can they take a picture with me. Women asking to take a picture, making statements that they wish their husband or boyfriend would dress like me. My business has skyrocketed, my contacts have increased by over 80 percent from before I started this journey. So why am I saying this? Because if you feel out of place by the way you dress, your manners, the way you carry yourself, it is okay you will learn that they are not looking at you out of discuss, but out of admiration and respect. Gentlemen, how many of you received or are receiving compliments on a regular basis since you started this journey? I would love to hear your experiences and I’m sure others would too. This is what this community is about to share and encourage each other. Take this pole and then write how you feel your transition affected you.