So a good man is a strong man and protector and me growing up as a heavy weight wrestler helped build me into the man I am. I was 199 lbs back then, most the time came in 3rd place cause the other 2 I wrestled were Rick the steam boat dragons sin richy and rick flairs son. Only time I got 2nd was when richy didn’t show up to a tournament . I almost all the time beat every opponent I went up against. If it wasn’t my mother down beating on the edge of the mat with my coaches it was my buddies mother. A story that humbled me. We were at a wrestling meet in statesville nc . My buddies nother was working the score card and she’s always say to me your gonna win right and I’d say yea well this time was much different. The coaches from the other team came to my coaches and I and explained it was their heavy weight last year to wrestle and he was actually over the heavy weight limit and no one told me what that was so I thought maybe by a couple lbs or something and so I did the good Christian boy thing and said sure I’ll wrestle him…. nah this dude was easily 6’3” and he weighed in at 418 lbs. we got at it and I cut his knees and had him in his back but he’s stomach was so large I was balancing on it trying to figure out how to pin his arms, that is until he “benched” me and rolled over and laid on me and I couldn’t breath and was tapping out as fast as I could lol Anyways back in 2000 I wrestled hard and came in 4th place in North Carolina state wrestling match . So obviously 1st and 2nd were the guys I already mentioned above, the guy that came in 3rd was a big ol boy and gave me a run for my money, it was a tough match for 3rd and 4th place .

Good evening gentlemen, As gentlemen and the ladies that are in this community, one of the hardest things for some of us to change or improve on is our language of how we talk to people and the words that we say. A lot of this has to do with our culture's, demographics , and the people that we associate ourselves with. As many of you know the English language is said to be one of the most difficult languages to learn because we have say many meanings to words, so many slang words, and abbreviations. And to make matters worse now we have emoji’s. Many feel that how they talk does not matter, and some think that you have to keep up with the times in order to fit in. But as I stated in a previous post that the way you talk will eventually affect the way to write your words. And to further that, when you are trying to advance whether is a position, or an interview you are going for, maybe a higher level position or a job that requires you to communicate or even write policies and procedures they listen to how you communicate. Having said that, sometimes in our efforts to change we tend to want to say too much at times and it goes from talking slang words to over speaking and giving to much information. The fastest way to loose respect is by this one habit, over explaining. When you keep justifying yourself, people sense insecurity even if you are right about something. Confident people explain once, then they stop talking. They trust their words don’t need explanation. Say what matters then stop talking. For example, you’re invited to an event and you know you are not going to attend, You simply say, “ I appreciate the invitation, but unfortunately i will not be able to attend.” Then Stop! Because the more you talk the more you seem Iike you lying and you just do not want to go. The more you talk the more you leave unanswered questions, and speculations. Little piece of advice, if you really don’t want to attend but feel obligated and you want to maintain a relationship and you fear that this will cause a problem, send a small gift of appreciation. Does not have to be big or expensive, but something letting them know you appreciate the invite.

The last midweek church service of 2025.