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Are You Noticed?

Good afternoon, ladies and gentlemen,

I do not know how many of you feel this way, but I have seen several comments lately on how men and ladies are feeling when it comes to being noticed or commented on. I have read where some have questioned their style of clothing or whether or not they are doing too much in the way of change. They are being questioned on their motives or their appearance.

I when I first made the decision I went straight from jeans, shirt with logos, or camo pants, khaki pants and a black shirt, to wearing a suit, blazer or slacks and a button-down shirt and ties. So naturally people were going to notice me. the change was to some dramatic, so I should have expected that reaction. If I did not want that reaction, I should have made studdle changes as to not draw attention to myself. This was my decision because, I was tired of the current lifestyle, the mood I was in and the feeling that I was blended in and categorized and stereotyped like most men in the environment I was in. I knew that I needed to make drastic changes right then and right now if I wanted to excel and be noticed aa a changed man if I wanted to get ahead; plus I know myself, if I was going to do something I was going to go all out or not at all, because I would never make that move. Now this was just me and my way of thinking.

But for others, they want to make a more subtle approach and a more gradual changes, and that is fine You do whatever makes you feel comfortable. Just know that there are going to be people that no matter how fast or moderate even slow you make changes are going to have something to say about it. Why? because the minute people start to notice you, they show respect, encouragement, or even special attention, there is going to be someone there waiting to throw shade on the new you. Because they are not noticed, or receiving the attention that you are now, or they got passed over a promotion and they feel it's because you look better than they do, not the fact they you do a better job, but because you cleaned yourself up your supervisor noticed you and therefore they started to notice your work performance.

the point it this, not matter what you do when you begin this journey, it will come with a cost, you will gain new relationships and possibly loose some and those that you lose were only there to ride on your coat tale, and under you until you moved out and became noticed.

You are being noticed now, embrace it, whether you make small or drastic changes the point is you are making changes. Do not stop or let people keep you where they are. They are where they are by choice the same way you were, the difference is you decided to take a step forward. Go from vision to victory.

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