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Are You Intentional

Good Morning Gentlemen,

One of the gentleman in this community who I also consider a friend

uses the term intentional several times in his post. And at first.I was like why are you so intentional about things? And then it dawned on me,

@Jeffrey Plotka

is right! Sorry Jeff; you know your my guy, but he was right about being intentional, when are are on this journey and we are doing things that we never done before or not use to we have to be intentional in what we are doing. Only by being intentional are you going to get use to doing what you are attempting to do. Take like even a baby trying to to walk, look at their steps that make sure that they are intentional in where they place their feet to make sure that they have their feet planted and they are balanced before they take that next step to avoid falling , but also so they can take that next step to reach their destination.

We have to be intentional in the things that we normally do not do, or that we are not use to. Only by being intentional will it become habit forming and then natural. There are many that grew up in ways that are not conducive with what we consider being a gentleman. It’s is not a reflection on how you were raised or how you are, I was raised to be a gentleman, but I let the world shape and conform me to what they wanted me to be rather than who I was and what I was raised to be. Unfortunately, it took years of making poor decisions that affected work and relationships before I realized this, and then when I did finally wake up and decided to change, because of years of bad habits and not caring I was struggling to change. Now I look back, I had to be intentional in what I was doing to change and in doing so, the changes became habits, and the habits now are the norm.

Gentlemen, as you are on this journey and you are wanting to grow and excel in being a gentleman become intentional like my brother

@Jeffrey Plotka

states on so many occasions. Let your intentions become habits, and your habits become the norm. In doing so you will find that the changes that you thought was hard will become easy and you will look back and say “ Was I really that guy? I am glad I am not that guy anymore.” This goes for if you are not used to dressing a certain way , being more open in public, introducing yourself to others, being the first to step up to the plate when no one will be, intentional about these things. This builds leadership qualities that will make you a leader and not a follower.

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