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My Breakthrough Story 🦋

I grew up in a small town in the U.S., but although I grew up in the country, I was exposed to the city. I played sports and did what everyone around me did. As I grew up, I was what I thought was the perfect balance, I did what I was supposed to but I was also rebellious and partied and snuck into the city at any chance I could in my teenage years…, but deep down I always knew there should be more. And I always knew that I was a little bit different, that I could see through the veil of the matrix.

So I did what I thought at the time was very “different” (and it was different for people from small-town Wisconsin), I decided to study fashion and moved to Europe, where I studied and worked for nine years. And even though I felt like I had reached a goal and manifested what I had wanted for so long, I still felt so numb, like I was ignoring the small voice inside me telling me that this wasn't my path, that this wasn’t the life I was supposed to live, or what I was meant to do.

Even though I had worked my ass off to get to this point, living and working in Europe in the fashion industry, I knew there was something more out there, something I’d be more passionate about. And this was all despite the fact that I had even just won an award in the fashion industry and a grant to start my own business.

At the time, my life was defined by living for the moments outside of work. I was living a conflicted life my yoga and spiritual practices were deepening, but I was also partying on the weekends. As appealing as the hedonism was, it never felt as good as I did when I was doing yoga or with people I could have deep conversations with.

I craved depth. I wanted to make a difference. But I was struggling with the fact that the fashion industry felt so unsustainable, so ego-driven, so consumeristic. As much as I loved the expression of fashion, I didn’t resonate working in the industry anymore.

Around that time, I started being pulled toward holistic healing: hypnosis, yoga, sound baths, anything that helped me connect deeper. Living in Berlin, I had access to all of it, and I was trying everything.

But when I look back now, I realize I was still driven more by my mind than by my intuition. I would hear my intuition loud and clear, but my mind would actively disagree.

For example, I had a feeling that fashion wasn’t my path while I was in grad school, but I told myself, You’ve worked so hard, you got into this incredible school, people believe in you — you can’t just walk away. I did the same in relationships. I knew the man I was dating wasn’t right for me, but I stayed for years. And I knew deep down that maybe it was time to leave Berlin, but I was so attached to the idea that I had worked hard for a visa and a life that others couldn’t easily get.

That attachment, to success, to stability, to how things “should” look kept me stuck for a long time.

Step 2: Crisis

There wasn’t one big event that changed everything. It was more like a gradual realization, a slow unraveling.

I started to see that if I kept ignoring my intuition, if I kept pushing away these feelings, they weren’t going anywhere. I was just becoming more and more numb, more disconnected, having to push harder and harder just to keep going.

And the truth was, I was tired. I knew I was such a passionate person — someone who came alive when she cared deeply, but at that point, I felt lifeless and flat. I was just going through the motions.

I remember waking up one morning and thinking, This isn’t how I want to live.

I’d been practicing yoga for years, since I was sixteen, but by twenty-eight, I had been in a serious, consistent practice for four years. Those years had slowly peeled back the layers and made me more self-aware. They helped me start to see the truth I had been avoiding: that the life I had built looked beautiful, but it didn’t feel aligned.

I could no longer ignore the small voice inside me that kept saying: You’re meant for something more.

And I knew, if I kept living the way I was living, disconnected from my truth and intuition, it would be detrimental.

Step 3: The Chase

So, I left everything behind.

I left Berlin, my home for four years, broke up with the man I had been dating that entire time, and moved to Istanbul, a city I knew nothing about. A friend had a room, and I said, “Why not?” I didn’t know what I was going to do next, but I knew I couldn’t keep doing what I’d been doing.

At that point, my only goal was to figure out my purpose. But with that freedom came fear. What if I never find it? What if I made a huge mistake leaving everything behind?

My ego was loud, it told me that because I wasn’t achieving, I wasn’t valuable.

Two months later, a girl I had met when I won the fashion award reached out. She was starting a sustainable fashion startup and invited me to join as a co-founder. I said yes, but looking back, I realize it was for my ego. It made me feel important again. But deep down, I knew I was repeating the same pattern.

That startup became another two-year cycle of me fighting against myself.

The true change came when I started hypnotherapy. I did ten sessions that changed my life.

In the very first session, I was asked to say out loud what was holding me back. The words were simple: I don’t trust myself. But I couldn’t say them. Every time I tried, I would tremble, cry, and shake. My hypnotherapist was patient and gentle, guiding me through until I could finally speak the truth.

Those sessions cracked me open. They helped me see all the limiting beliefs buried in my subconscious, the ones that told me I had to please people, the ones that made me believe I couldn’t trust my own voice. That deep work changed everything.

Soon after, I left the startup, even though we had just landed a big investor and things were taking off. It was a hard decision and battle with the ego, but I knew it wasn’t my purpose.

I still didn’t know what I wanted to do, but I knew one thing: yoga had always been my anchor. I felt my best when I was on the mat, so I signed up for yoga teacher training.

During that time, I was living as a nomad, between Italy, Mexico, and Brazil. Mexico was where everything started to shift. I met healers, shamans, and spiritual teachers. Everyone kept telling me, You’re a healer. I didn’t like hearing it, it rubbed me the wrong way, but it also hit something deep inside me.

One healer told me, You’re a healer, but you need to heal yourself first.

He guided me through a deep physical and energetic cleanse — herbs, purification, and lifestyle changes. I quit coffee immediately, but it took time to release alcohol and reintroduce fish and eggs after seven years of veganism. It was uncomfortable, but transformative.

Then came the Temezcal, a traditional sweat lodge ceremony, and it broke me wide open. It was like being reborn. I came out feeling raw and empty, but in the best way.

After that, I returned to Europe for the summer. I was still unsure where I wanted to live, but I had already booked my yoga training in Bali. I thought maybe I’d move back to Europe afterward. I even signed a lease in Berlin, just before leaving for Bali.

Step 4: Conflict

Before all of that transformation, there was a moment that nearly broke me.

After living in Istanbul for four months, I returned to the U.S. feeling completely lost. I was doing freelance work and startup projects that didn’t fulfill me, and for the first time, I felt like I had truly failed.

I had given up a life that, while not perfect, at least had stability and comfort, for one that was uncertain and empty. I wasn’t making much money, I was far from friends, and I felt depressed. It was a true dark night of the soul.

I remember sitting on my sister’s couch, wrapped in blankets, watching endless TV, thinking: I worked so hard for that life in Europe, and now I have nothing. What was the point?

Then one day, something clicked. A quote I saw online “You didn’t come this far to only come this far.” It was, hilariously, a meme from Kim Kardashian. But it hit me.

I realized I had two choices: stay stuck and numb, or get up and keep going. And I decided I wasn’t going to stop here.

Step 5: Breakthrough

By the second week of my yoga teacher training in Bali, I knew I wasn’t going back.

Something had opened in me that I couldn’t close. My meditations were deep, my heart was expanding, and for the first time, I experienced oneness, it happened under a tree, and it changed everything.

I cancelled the Berlin apartment immediately. I knew it was a test, a temptation to return to my old life, to take the easy path. Instead, I stayed.

A month later, I was offered the chance to assist another yoga teacher training, and that experience changed me. Being a spaceholder, being in service to others, it filled me with a sense of fulfillment I had never felt before.

It was during that time that I realized the deeper meaning of my journey: this wasn’t just about purpose. It was about reclaiming my feminine energy.

Before, I had been living from my masculine, striving, pushing, proving. In Bali, I learned to soften, to trust, to be.

As I shared my realizations with others, I began to see how many women were feeling the same way, disconnected from their feminine essence, constantly overworking, overgiving, and trying to prove their worth. And I realized that mindfulness was the bridge back home.

Yoga, meditation, breathwork, they were all practices of mindfulness. And the more we root into awareness, the more balanced, grounded, and alive we become.

After that, everything flowed. I stayed in Bali, studied mindfulness, then went to India to study Shakta Tantra, the Divine Feminine. I taught yoga in Sri Lanka for two months and returned to Bali to train in sound healing and meditation. That’s when The Mindful Woman Method was born.

Step 6: After

Now in my life, I feel deeply at peace, grounded, calm, and connected to myself in a way I never imagined possible.

For so long, I lived in my mind, analyzing, planning, overthinking every decision. I let logic and fear lead me, even when my intuition was whispering the truth. My life used to feel like one long list of things to prove: how capable I was, how successful, how strong.

Today, I live from a completely different place. I’ve learned to let my intuition guide me, to listen to that quiet voice within and trust it fully. My mind still has a place, it helps me create, plan, and bring my visions to life, but now it works in partnership with my intuition, not in opposition to it.

I’ve found harmony between my masculine and feminine energies, between action and surrender, doing and being. The masculine in me gives structure, clarity, and direction. The feminine in me moves with intuition, flow, and trust. Together, they’ve created a life that feels balanced, alive, and deeply fulfilling.

The biggest transformation hasn’t been external, it’s been internal. It’s the shift from not trusting myself to trusting myself completely. From trying to control life to allowing life to unfold through me. From forcing to flowing.

Now, I wake up every morning feeling a deep sense of inner peace and feeling empowered. I live in Bali, surrounded by nature, teaching yoga, hosting meditations, and building the work that lights me up — guiding other women through their own awakening.

Through mindfulness and feminine embodiment, I help women reconnect with their intuition, regulate their nervous system, and find balance between their inner masculine and feminine energies. Because when a woman learns to trust herself, truly trust herself, she becomes magnetic, grounded, and free.

That’s what mindfulness gave me, the awareness to hear my intuition, the tools to balance my energy, and the courage to live in alignment with my truth.

I’ve realized that peace doesn’t come from changing your life, it comes from changing how you live within it.

I traveled the entire world searching for answers, only to discover that everything I needed was already within me. And now, I’m here to help other women remember the same truth, that the calm, clarity, and confidence they’re craving already exist inside of them.

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