2d • General discussion
Non-Negotiables
Assalamu alaikum sisters 🤍
I thought I would share my non-negotiables - which is a prettyyyy long list 😅
Maybe some of you sisters can help me shorten or combine them, and maybe others can take some inspo hehe
I have divided mine into categories:
Non-Negotiables:
- Deen
- He consistently performs the five daily prayers on time.
- He attends Jumu’ah every week without excuses.
- He does not drink alcohol or use drugs.
- He respects Islamic boundaries between genders (no female “friends,” no flirting).
- He takes Islam as the primary guidance for life, not culture.
- He actively seeks Islamic knowledge.
- He has a relationship with the Qur’an through daily hifdh and repetition.
- He has gheerah over his family and wife and is not comfortable with his wife displaying her beauty publicly.
- He practices sunnah acts.
2. Character
- He does not lie.
- He is not aggressive or violent during conflicts.
- He does not shout, insult, or humiliate during disagreements.
- He listens actively and seeks to understand before reacting.
- He speaks to me with respect, even when he disagrees.
- He takes responsibility for his mistakes.
- He has patience and self-control over his temper.
- He does not withdraw from discussions for days (no silent treatment).
- He is open to advice and constructive criticism without becoming defensive.
- He respects that conflicts are resolved privately, not made public.
- He shows sabr in difficult situations.
3. Lifestyle
- He has no addictions.
- He is not oriented toward partying or nightlife.
- His life is not centered around social media or seeking attention from women.
- He prioritizes productive or meaningful activities over passive entertainment (e.g., movies and series).
- He has good personal hygiene and presents himself well.
4. Marriage Roles
- He is willing and able to be the primary provider for the family.
- He wants children and will be actively involved in raising them.
- He sees marriage as a responsibility and an act of worship (ibadah).
5. Practical Matters
- He lives in my country.
- He is taller than me.
- He is within a reasonable age range (1-6 years older).
- He is willing to involve families and keep the process halal.
- He has a stable, halal income.
If you think I am missing something important, then please do tell in shaa Allah 👀
Jazakum Allahu khairan beautiful sisters 💐
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