Usually when I get defensive I am unwilling to feel or communicate one of my emotions. Which of these do you think is the most common one that causes you or your partner to get defensive? Anger- Shame - Guilt - Fear - Lonely - Sad - Hurt -

I was approached by a writer at the NYT, they want to do a 'profile' of me. They said they would require to listen in on a coaching call with one of my clients to do the piece (LIVE not just the recording). The client would be named, first and last name, in the article, I asked if their partner also needed to be included, and she said she wasn't sure just yet. Is there an individual and/or couple that would be willing to be recorded/watched over zoom by a reporter while I coach you ?

Don't really know if this is suitable place to be asking this but didn't know where else to ask. When the anger about little things I do get directed towards me, I feel really hurt and become silent (a really bad emotional response I've developed from young when people direct anger towards me because I grew up thinking silence meant safety) which makes it really hard for me to be present with my partner in those moments and in moments when she's going through a really tough time, it can lead her to think I don't care about her. Just wondering if anyone had any advice for me on how to break free of this emotional response or suggestions in habits that I can implement to build stronger mental fortitude to be able to brush aside the anger directed at me and help me focus on her in those moments