Usually when I get defensive I am unwilling to feel or communicate one of my emotions. Which of these do you think is the most common one that causes you or your partner to get defensive? Anger- Shame - Guilt - Fear - Lonely - Sad - Hurt -

If you haven't seen this yet, I recommend giving it a watch • How early habits can shape our understanding of sex and intimacy • The difference between feeling an urge and truly needing physical intimacy • How rethinking these patterns helped foster a deeper connection with my partner • And why challenging long-held beliefs about masculinity and physical need matters

I was approached by a writer at the NYT, they want to do a 'profile' of me. They said they would require to listen in on a coaching call with one of my clients to do the piece (LIVE not just the recording). The client would be named, first and last name, in the article, I asked if their partner also needed to be included, and she said she wasn't sure just yet. Is there an individual and/or couple that would be willing to be recorded/watched over zoom by a reporter while I coach you ?

Every home that is struggling with equality of invisible labor has a conversation they are struggling with that takes on different flavors, which one are you struggling with the most?

Thank you for having me it’s great to be here. To start I’m a 31 year old man on the autism spectrum looking to learn more about the mental load and how to be a better partner. My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years and for the most part we have a great life together. The issue that has been consistent though is not fully understanding mental load balance and have also been struggling with being able to do certain things around our home. Growing up as an only child I was very privileged in a lot of ways, mainly not having to do a lot around the house as my parents took care of a lot of things. This has transferred very poorly into adulthood as I continuously struggle to do certain tasks in the correct manner. I love my girlfriend very much and want to continue to have a happy life with her but in order to do that I need to learn how to take care of my own end of things so I do not become a burden or worst case scenario a manchild that is incapable of being a good partner. I am looking forward to speaking with people here and accepting any criticism or feedback that will help me be a better man for myself and my loved one’s.