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Resource: How to Get 6 Female Friends and Have Them Show Up
I’ve been in MOA for almost a year and a half, and I have invited women to almost every event type. Container events, photo shoot, exclusive mansion, parties, charity galas, bikini, competitions, you name it. We know it can be tough to get women to show up because of how flaky women are so I wanted to give you some tips I’ve learned.
First, a big lesson I learned from Karim‘s recent group call involves three attractive women he brought on the call, one of which I invited:
-A big offer isn’t going to make up for creepiness, lack of charisma, and a bad vibe. All the women agreed that if they met someone in person, they would be much more likely to show up for a low value offer with someone who seemed cool and had a good vibe versus someone with a big offer who seemed creepy or weird or didn’t have a memorable interaction. This speaks to the importance of Being able to break rapport, have charisma, and have good game! My friend on the call said she was offered a couple exclusive backstage California music festival passes from this guy, but she declined because the guy seemed kind of creepy and it wasn’t worth having to put up with being around him for several hours.
-work on your charisma and ability to break rapport guys! I think most men outside of this program struggle with it and many men in this program could do better, including myself. If you’re boring, dull, have a quiet voice, and there’s fear in your eyes when you’re talking to women, you’re likely not going to progress things even if you get access to a room with a bunch of 9s and 10s! There’s no problem acknowledging that you suck. The problem is when you don’t take any consistent action to fix it! Karim is excellent at this, which he demoed on the call
-on the call the week before, karim said: for cold DM invites, that’s when having the biggest offer matters more. You’re not talking to them in person so you can’t really charisma your way in. So then, it becomes more about your offer than your social media profile. He said if he had to choose, it’s better to have a bad ass offer and a mid social media profile than a bad ass social media profile and a mid offer. Before you protest, I can see why this is debatable. Let’s just try and max all our stats whenever we can!
Some of my own tips:
-keep inviting as long as your offers are good and they don’t tell you to stop. Because they may eventually show! I know at least one woman who will keep responding that she couldn’t make it to several of my invites until she finally said she shows! Sometimes, it just takes persistence before they show up some things.I try not to spam my open threads with low value offers too often like comp tables. I try to keep the offers valuable because you’re never creepy if you’re offering value. A small minority of women will respond in a nasty way or negative way or tell you to stop, and then, just stop sending to them
-take action and put in the work! I can get some women to show whereas other members can’t get a single woman to show because I’ve put in the work. I’m cold Dming often but that’s not all I do. You can’t just sit in a room at home all day on your phone. I’m also out multiple times a week interacting with women in person and getting their Instagrams. It’s not magic. I wonder if some men take it for granted or just assume if there’s a bunch of women around, just magically happen. There’s probably a bunch of work behind the scenes and a large amount of women that was invited that led to a small percent showing
-build the amount of open threads you have in any way you can and don’t give up. I remember getting very exasperated in the first six months because Vegas has mostly tourist and so I would be so lucky to get five or less open threads with locals a week. I also didn’t have much charisma so even if I met a local, I would lose her get rejected a lot when I asked for igs. At the time, I was frustrated because the math didn’t make sense. If only 25% of people I invite show for anything, I wouldn’t have enough open threads to get anyone to show! Somehow, the amount of open threads I have has ballooned to 450 now. The more Open thread you have, the more invite you can throw out which increases the amount that will show, even if the percentage is low. Also, back to my first point, if you have some solid charisma, then the show percentage is a lot higher. It’s not just a game of Numbers, breaking rapport well and being a cool person can increase your show up rate a lot
-you’re probably wondering, how did I dramatically increase my open threads? It was a mixture of things. Doing street interviews is an easy way to get more yeses since you’re not hitting on them and or less on guard. I did a lot of interview interviews, more than any other moa member. Going out to where women are and asking for Instagram using what the program teaches and having a offer to invite them to help helps. You can definitely collect Instagram open threads in person. I also messaged them or have them message me so that the Open thread is created even if they Unfollow me later. And I was always networking and finding cool events to invite to or creating my own events. I’m always cold Dming while staying under thr Ig limits.
-find one or two men who also take this seriously and work together. You can go farther as a team. I don’t think I would’ve been able to pull off my first two photo shoot without the other members who came together and help me coordinate or supplied stuff like a rain room for photos
-you can invite some girls to middle of funnel or lower events even if you haven’t met them or met them briefly. I understand generally you shouldn’t, but rules can be bent. I did this recently for a topgolf container event and a lot of women appreciated the invite and some said they would come out even though I haven’t met them in person yet. There’s another reason why I think I’m able to do this maybe more than other guys and it is because…
-I fixed my Instagram and then some. I’ve gone well beyond the bare minimum of nine photos on my grid. I have over 100 and I’m constantly posting and trying to enhance my Instagram. Therefore, I think my Instagram is at a point where women see that and are responding much nicer to me than they typically would’ve. On the last two events I invited for, the women are responding a lot nicer, and even if they can’t go, they’re thanking me for the invitation, whereas before they would’ve just ignored it. I think it’s because They see how great my Instagram is and want to maintain a good relationship with me.
I don’t have everything figured out and I’m still on this journey. some areas I have room to improve are my charisma and ability to break rapport and my ability to transition open threads of women I’ve barely met or haven’t met yet into strong female friends and get a higher percent to show for things. I’m working on the ability to transition from having a bunch of open threads to tangibly having attractive, female friends I’d hang around consistently. It’s tough out there guys, but we’re in this together.
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Resource: How to Get 6 Female Friends and Have Them Show Up
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