Apr '24 • 💬 General discussion
Physical Communication
The reason beginning to dance when I go out increased my game so much is because it is physical communication. As I have said before, I feel completely comfortable with my verbal game -it is what I have worked on the most since my journey has been one of cold approaching-. I always had an intuition that non-verbal game is the base of game, but had a problem understanding exactly how to reflect that in my game, dancing solved that for me and I’ll share what I mean now, which, by the way, dancing is not necessary to apply what I’m about to share. When I cold approach now or talk to girls in general (that I’m attracted to), I no longer feel the need to “say the right thing” because I understand now that I am being too logical about it if I do that, but in the beginning it was a trap that I constantly fell into (hook, line, and stinker 🤮). Yes, women are equally as intelligent as and completely mentally capable to us in every way, but when it comes to meeting each other, as a man, thanks to Disney movies and bullshit like that, I felt the need to create that movie moment and sweep her off her feet. I can confidently and from experience say now that that’s a logical fallacy and it confuses women when I do that since women are physical beings. Logic can get in the way of physical communication which, once I understood this, turned my verbal game so much more minimalistic and made me aware how becoming so good at talking was actually a handicap I had put on myself, but not because of the talking itself, rather because of the place it was coming from. I remember reading in the Men of Action emails that cold approach is inefficient and I agree to a certain point, but there is a more efficient way to do it and that is to not focus so much on having the best talking. After having begun to dance when I go out, which communicates so much more in so much less than when I would “work the room”, I can make her think about how our bodies are interacting much more; it is better than trying to say the right thing by trying to create the correct storyline (which FUCKS THE PHYSICAL COMMUNICATION UP COMPLETELY!). If she has to think about it, it’s fucked, she should understand what I am communicating immediately. All what I have to say has to do is make sense from a physical sense, not a logical one. Ever since understanding this, my talking has been cut down so much when I cold approach in the city and while out, I would love to hear y’all’s opinion on how you use your verbal game to trigger physical communication. For me, I stopped telling a story and give the most direct answer possible now. For instance, I tell her: “I’m talking to you because I want to.” I go straight into logistics from the start basically, albeit in a social way, so she can feel that I am screening her. I compliment her, I am curious about her, but because it shows her I am paying attention to how she is physically, although not as a body, rather as a physical being that I am interacting with physically, not logically. Being logical while out, like thinking about game, is 🤮
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