Jul '24 • 🥰 Dating
How To Get Girls 101 (for Complete Jeffereys)
Preface: This guide is for people who have no idea what they're doing, for people who are starting from Level 0 or even negative levels. This is an accumulation of knowledge on everything you should do with girls, and, by no means am I a fuckboy, or a 10/10 physically, but I've got friends who are and I've spent a lot of time over the past year accumulating knowledge from them, seeing how they act, and how perfectly it lines up with Hamza's teachings.
First and foremost, there are a couple of things you MUST have down before you'll get ANY success with girls. This guide is for people who have followed these steps first but don't know where to go from there, or how the dating world works.
1) You MUST be physically attractive. If you are attracted to a girl because of those curves, or her face, or how her waist is tight in comparison to her hips, then why the fuck do you not see it necessary to change what's in your hands? You CANNOT pull if you are obese or extremely underweight. Even if you do pull, and, say, get the 10/10 of your dreams, and she loves you with all of her heart, feelings of inadequacy due to the beauty gap will start to ruin it for you anyways. You'll start to be less secure, less confident, and oopsie-daisy she breaks up with you because you start doing autistic shit out of insecurity.
2) You MUST understand the how polarisation and the "Alpha Male" model works. If you haven't already, watch Hamza's videos on talking, texting and dating girls. Understand that girls want to be in a feminine role and they feel the most comfortable being open sexually when that is the dynamic. She will like you more than "just a friend" if the power dynamic is that the man is masculine (takes lead, says "we're going here" no hesitation, know what he wants) and the woman is feminine (trust the decisions of the man, switches into her feminine energy (which is more of "acting like a little girl" all squealy and adorable.)) If that's the dynamic, you win.
3) You MUST be CONFIDENT. Building confidence is like building a tower. It's slow, but it will stay there for ever. Confidence is built from knowing your capability. If you won an international competition in boxing, then you would have an aura of confidence that screams, I know how to beat some ass. There's a reason you're so insecure and jumpy. You haven't done jackshit your entire life. All you've done is click buttons for hours a day and jack off to 2d images. The way to build confidence is to start leveling up in real life. This mentality will be what gets you away from video games as well. For those of you who know this next anecdote, you can skip. Basically what this says is that you won't just get to level 100 of confidence from the get go. You'll start from level 0, and you'll start to lift heavy weights, and you're up to level 7 already. Start asking guys to spot you, level 10. Start asking people more questions "when does this gym close?", level 15. Occasionally you'll get the balls to approach a random hot girl in public. Confidence has gone up to level 35 immediately. I'll get into that later on but let's get started!
My Story:
Let me walk you through my life. I was a FAT peice of shit up until I was 14 years old. I hated myself, I said autistic things, I fapped a lot, I ate for comfort, I procrastinated all my work, I pursued the things I wanted for my career but didn't REALLY work hard, and on top of it all, I wanted girls more than anything in the world. I never approached anyone though, I kept to myself, I didn't go outside, I didn't try to make friends, I hated anyone else who was fat, and I hated boys who took the girls I wanted. I never talked to girls, just stared at them, leading me to look like that stereotypical creep you'll usually see in the corner of the room.
When I came back from summer of 22, a fat guy who I hated in my school came back looking so unfamiliar I didn't recognise him. He had lost all that weight. I peppered him with questions,
"How did you lose ALL of that weight?"
"How many steps did you do?"
"What did you eat?"
"How did you do it?"
"How did you do it?"
"How did you do it?"
And I started doing what he had done throughout the summer, I started to lose weight. As I began to lose weight, I still hated myself, but as I watched Hamzas videos on girls, on cold approaching, there was this one girl in my class that I approached that I found HOOOOOT. Like PROPER hot like 9/10 hot. Keep in mind I did this when I looked like an ugly piece of shit. And I kid you not, my heart rate was probs going at about 210bpm for the first time in my life, nevertheless, must have been the most braindead conversation from my side. In real life, she gave me a chance to speak and didn't humiliate me. She respected the fact that I came and talked to her. But before I went, I thought, imagine this guy (fat obese me) approaching one of the popular girls in school. Yeeeeeeeah. I just did it. But I look back and I think, hey that was like nothing.
Needless to say that whole situation went to shit, I tried to “woo” her by bending down and tying her shoelaces for her, I probably still have the video someone took of me doing that lying around somewhere, as the whole school was in a circle cheering me on. It wasn’t forgotten for a while, but I used it to just power my way through my walks and the gym.
You just have to get started and go out there and START APPROACHING. Imagine going to the gym, you're not going to get there and deadlift 500kg or bench press 100kg straight off the bat. You're going to struggle with that 20kg bar first. But you'll keep coming back and as you come back, you'll feel more familiar with the form, stop shaking so damn much and go up to 25kg, then 30kg, then 35, and before you know it your PR is 120kg and you just go, "this is because I repeated this movement for FUCKS sake so long. I pick up girls today and I say “I wish I had humiliated myself like that earlier.”
Right now, I've got I think around 4 girls OPENLY interested in me (who are 7s or 8s) compare that to me 1 and a half years ago.
I got here by doing everything possible. EVEN the really awkward stuff. That being said, most interactions with girls that have gone HORRIBLY WRONG or at least REALLY awkward were because I prefaced them as being really awkward
Some Experiences:
One time I approached a girl who was in the mall having dinner with a friend IN THE MIDDLE OF THE FUCKING MALL. I was genuinely tweaking before I went over there and I was so stressed and anxious, pacing in front of the restaurant with dodging eyes, but I’d promised myself I’d approach AT LEAST ONE girl that day, so I did it, expecting the fucking worst, but when I went there the convo was polite, quick and not awkward at all. She actually said that what I did was "super sweet" and meanwhile I was sweating my balls off (she had a boyfriend)
Sometimes I'll be walking, and I'll just interrupt people. Two girls were walking past me the other day and one was saying to the other "He's so fucking ugly, he thinks he's all that and his face makes me want to puke!" I just went, "DAEMN!" and they burst out laughing. It's little things like that that'll help you build the confidence. Or if two girls start doing something weird behind I’ll just look behind me slowly with an eyebrow raised. That’ll usually get them laughing pretty quick too.
Worst rejection that happened to me. We were in a library and the girl next to me was cute but on a video call on her laptop with earphones in. As I was getting up she glanced at me and ended her call. I just got up and approached her and said something like "Hey what you up to?" or "who are you calling?" and she gave me a deadly stare. I just said, "that's fine, don't worry about it sorry I disturbed you" and done. OVER. I didn't talk to her again, but fuuuuuuck I talked to a bunch of other girls that day.
Just do it. If you trip up over you words she might just laugh, feel flattered and say, "hey I like you" who the fuck knows. No one will if you don't go over there and say something. From the words of a good friend (she's a girl) @Roan Yates said:
"Also a little note, it’s okay if your approach isn’t absolutely perfect. Your hair doesn’t have to be blowing perfectly in the wind and your smile doesn’t have to be perfectly shiny. Sometimes the quirks are endearing and more attractive. I like a guy who shows he’s a bit nervous as well because it’s much easier to feel warmer and more comfortable. Don’t try too hard to be stern or have a cold face. Friendly is a much more attractive way to go:) Just be yourself. If you don’t think it’ll pull the “10/10 baddies”, you don’t need to. A lot of times they aren’t the best ever either. Would you rather have a girl that has expectations of you being perfect 24/7 or a girl who loves you for you and your quirks and encourages you? if you chose the second one listen to my advice:))"
Also, visualise, visualise, visualise. Visualise yourself, grabbing a girl that's next to you as she bites her lip and moans. Visualise yourself dapping up a random dude, complimenting him on his physique or work ethic, and getting invited into his friend group, or invited to a night out. Visualise you going to an event, and all the girls are attracted to you there, visualise that YOU are the chad. When you walk through school, everybody’s head swivels, they can feel your presence. Realistically, I was waddling through school like a penguin with my tits out. Nevertheless, people felt it, and subconciouslly started to percieve me less as weird and more as "that guy" even if everything else screamed: NO! Visualising plays around 30% of my success with girls atm.
Surround yourself with people who are REALLY socially outgoing. You've got to build it up a little first. Just as you leave class, ask the guy next to you, "Yo, where you headed?" or "Hey, how are you?" Interactions like this will almost always go well so don't stress
Denmo does this great
Imo, Bartek seems like sm that is just more my style
By watching more and more cold approach videos, you normalise yourself to that sort of action and you subconsciously become more like him.
9th June 2024 Edit: I just realised that Bartek's channel has idk disappeared or sm, watch some other youtube videos on cold approaching
Keep in mind, everybody is as insecure as you are. Nobody is fully secure in themselves or who they are.
Personally, I'm still working on my physique since I'm like 20-22% bf but good muscle, but I act so confident around girls, they can't help but become attracted to me.
HERE'S A CHECKLIST of things you should constantly do to get better at talking to girls.
1) any chance you get to talk to a girl be it platonic or flirty, do it. At a coffee shop, ask the girl in front of you, "hey, what are you thinking of getting?" and just talk (I'm doing more of this recently)
2) If you over hear something that's funny or stupid just comment on it lightly. A while ago two girls walking past me and they said something along the lines of, "he's so fucking annoying and his face make me want to puke!" Obviously, thos aint the kind of girls I be going for but practice is practice so I said "DAEMN!" and they just laughed and giggled at my reaction, and I just followed it up with, "don't be so tough on the guy!" (I do this almost all the time like I'm breathing)
3) occasionally traditional cold approach. Go up to any random girl on your college who you actually find attractive and just yolo it. "Hey how are you, I know this seems super spontaneous, but I would have beaten myself up if I didn't come over and tell you that you are extremely beautiful" and if she's receptive then you can ask for the number
4) Watch people do similar things and be friends with people who do similar things, this is how I rose to the top of being confident with girls.
5) when it comes to flirting with girls, picture that hollywood scene between a jock and cheerleader where she's biting her lip and while you're teasing her she's getting wet. I visualise this daily, and even if not true rn, soon it will be
Now some words from a fellow Highschooler on how to pick up girls using socials. And this was gold for me because I didn’t know either. Thank you @Steven Goodwin
“honestly for highschoolers like myself snapchat is hella helpful for pulling, its way easier. but anyone that u pull is 99% more likely to be fake /w red flags. personally i use insta but if u dont got a good profile u can keep on using snap”
“the process of talking to someone on snap is very similar to insta/sms etc. the only diff is that they you can see what they're doing and vice versa. you're able to take on the fly picture of u doing interest stuff and ur face, meaning they're more confident that you're actually attractive. and u can ask girls abt what they doin too based off of the snap, girls love to talk abt themselves and their day so u can ask short questions. just make sure shes doing 90% of the texting in that case. in my personal expierence if they dont seem interested in ur question its cuz they aren't attracted to you. but ill reiterate u want them to be sending paragraphs abt their day to you, not vice versa. and make sure pretty quickly into texting them u plan smthing. if they dont wanna, immediately move on to another girl. this reply was kinda all over the place so sorry lol”
“he girl im wit rn i slid in her dms and we didnt know anything abt each other, shes from a diff school. i did it on insta. with girls in the past ive swiped up on their stories as a first msg as it seems more natural. while hamza says to never mention a girl's appearance, if u dont wanna wait for a girl to post a story id msg them and just say they pretty or sm and do a bit of braindead convo from there. thats what i did with the girl im with rn. u dont wanna ask to hangout rightaway, give it a day of talking cuz if shes genuinely good girl she'll think you're a kidnapper if you ask rightaway. give her some time to look through ur insta profile, ask her friends abt u, talk for a bit, etc.”
When I asked this guy about his reputation and how attractive he was he said this
“bro idk if i just suffer from poor mental health but i think im ugly lmfao. the girl im with is wayyy more attractive than me but it doesnt matter cuz of the way i act and shit. ill dm u what my insta looks like. my rep at school is aight, im chill with pretty much everyone and any girl that msgs anyone at school abt me is prob gonna say im calm and shi”
I hope this has helped, comment any questions, this guide will be taken down and updated as I gain more and more knowledge and share it with you. But the last year and a half have been quite the journey and I'm proud of how far I'm gotten and that I can give back to the community
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