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Guide To Throwing A Party - Long Post
Former Army Logistics Officer Here - So my thought process to most things are from the "how can we check all our blocks to make this run smoothly" context.
It's one thing to throw a small party, have some friends over and have some beers - but its once it scales bigger, you need a bit more planning.
Here's how I do it.
Step 1 - Build Your Team
To throw an epic party and attract many guests, I start by assembling a reliable and trustworthy team. Instead of inviting a large number of female friends yourself, focus on having a core group of 2-5 friends. It's crucial that these individuals are dependable and "*cool*
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If you have an untrustworthy friend, either replace them or exclude them from the planning. A single disruptive person can spoil the experience for everyone and discourage girls from returning. As the "Party Captain," ensure that each friend understands the rules and supports the plan.
Assign each friend the task of inviting at least 12 girls. By collaborating as a team, you'll expand your social circle and create a memorable party.
Step 2 - Party Planning
With your team ready, it's time to plan the party. To make it stand out, I pick theme, design invitations, and ensuring you have all the necessary resources. Delegate some tasks to your friends to make the planning process easier.
*In the military, delegation is not optional - why put all the stress on yourself
Theme - Choose a theme that sets your party apart and avoids the typical "casual gatherings:. Move away from the mundane standing-and-drinking-beer parties. Opt for a simple theme like "Black and White" attire or consider something unique like a beach theme, as we did for my last party.
Invitations - I use Canva to download an invitation template for your chosen theme. Keep the invitation simple and include essential details like "You're invited to X party. Theme: Date and Time." Your invitation adds credibility to the event.
Resources - Ensure you have all the necessary supplies for the party, including drinks, snacks, music, decorations, and other party essentials. Create a list of items needed and delegate tasks to your friends for a smooth organization. Consider hiring a bartender or DJ for an elevated experience If you want. I personally have never hired a bartender. I like people to be able to congregate in the kitchen, pour drinks and talk.
I have hired/invited a DJ friend, but I would say..if youre in an apartment - Your neighbors might complain about the base
The basics include alcohol, food, disposable plates, cups, cutlery, napkins, toilet paper, and trash bags.
***Account for an ample supply of toilet paper, as women to go through that shit quick. I estimate a roll per hour for every three women.
There are two ways to acquire these items. Either assign friends to bring specific items or calculate the total cost, purchase everything yourself, and split the bill among the group. Personally, I prefer buying everything in advance to avoid last-minute runs to the store. Having supplies in bulk ensures you won't run out.
Don't worry about purchasing too much alcohol, as guests usually bring their own bottles. I will discuss my guest rules later on.
Step 3 - Guest Invitations
The invitation process should be divided into multiple phases, starting at least 2 weeks before the party. This allows guests enough time to invite their friends, confirm plans, and ensure they receive the message.
Phase 1 - Initial Invitations
Each of your friends should send invitations to at least 12 girls. Keep in mind that around 70 percent of the invited girls may not attend, so it's better to overinvite rather than underinvite. If you want 20 girls to come, invite around 50, or ideally, send out 100 invites. Embrace the risk of packing your house and potentially annoying neighbors, as long as everything is within legal limits. The goal is to create a memorable experience. I have had upwards of 50 people show up to just a house party
As your clout grows, you'll have a higher percentage of people showing up. It's not necessary to invite guys separately since your core group will show up, and some girls may bring their male friends. If you do invite guys, let them know they can only attend if accompanied by a female(That they aren't dating". * This might seem like an asshole move, but 1. I don't want random unvouched for dude coming and dudes tend to think that if they are invited, they can bring a few buddies.
The point is to build a social circle of chicks. I want the ration to be 2:1 girls at least. So I may invite 50 girls and 10 dudes. Dudes will almost always show up, chicks won't
For the first invite, keep it simple. Send the invitation picture with the text: "Hey, I'm throwing a party in x weeks. Would you like to come?" Including a few pictures related to the theme can also help generate interest. If you have hosted previous parties, include pictures or provide a link(IG) to the highlights to validate that it will be a worthwhile event. Designate someone in your crew as the dedicated photographer for the party, and more details on that will be discussed later. When people reply, respond with: "Cool, I'll send you more info soon."
**I have a highlight where i post pictures/videos from the parties
Phase 2 - Follow-up and Guest Confirmations
Assuming you receive numerous responses, a couple of days later, send out additional information to the interested guests. It's common for girls to ask if they can bring their friend. I make it clear that they are welcome to bring a girlfriend. Avoid using the term "friend," as it may be misinterpreted and they bring a bunch of dudes
Ask the guests to provide two of their favorite songs. Explain that you'll either add them to a playlist or give them to the DJ. This not only makes each girl feel special when their favorite song plays but also gets everyone excited about the music selection.
I personally think its also important to ask for the names/Instagram handles of their plus ones. My building has a security guard and I give him a list of names so he doesnt have to call or text me every time he arrives. The rough number also gives me an idea of how much supplies i need.
My secondary intention is to know who will be attending my party. Again bit of an asshole - I dont want a party full of dudes, and I don't want a gang of ugly chicks coming. sometimes the hot chick has a bunch of busted friends.
I let the guest know, that once they send names, i'll give out the address.
This is a private event/party. whether its at my house or a rented location, I dont want everyone having the address.
**Also I can review he list an conveniently "forget" to send them the address. If I truly don't want the people to come.
Once I had a high status dude planning to bring a couple chicks, and a chick i initially invited happen to be his X and she was known to get drunk and wild. Out of respect for him and his group, i chose to "forget" to follow up with her.
Phase 3 - Final Confirmation and Party Preparation
Two days before the party, send a final message to inform the guests that they are on the guest list and provide them with the address. Also, include any last-minute rules or instructions. For example, for a summer-themed party, I specify that girls don't need to bring anything, but guys should bring a bottle of white wine or liquor. This encourages guests to contribute to the party. Personally, I prefer wine as it adds a touch of class and suits the dancing atmosphere that women tend to enjoy. * I personally believe that a bunch of chicks don't want to sit around drinking beer
Step 4 - Party Execution
Before the party, make sure to clean your house and, if necessary, ask your friends for help. Rearrange furniture to create an open space for dancing. To enhance the ambiance, consider buying inexpensive balloons and rope lights. This cost me all of 30 bucks. No need to go heavy... Rain light are damn near 1 use only because theyll get tangled up and its easier to replace vs untangle
Purchase party platters of sandwiches or sushi from the grocery store for food and set them up in the kitchen. Ensure there is plenty of visible toilet paper in the bathrooms.
Assuming you have a speaker use Spotify to create a playlist that includes the songs requested by the guests, along with popular hits and similar tracks. Once the party gets underway and more people arrive, they will generally take the initiative to keep the party going.
If you have a good number of girls present, they will often organize themselves. Your role, along with your friends, is to introduce everyone and facilitate a fun and enjoyable atmosphere.
*Make sure you have a quality speaker/sound system.
I have both a 15 inch party speaker, but also a JBL charge. In a 2000sqft house. Honestly, the JBL is fine. the 15in woofer tends to vibrate wallls
Additional Important Notes:
- Avoid appearing desperate or overly interested in pursuing women at the party. Your main role as the host is to ensure everyone is comfortable and having a good time. Act as a facilitator VS trying to "Game" Chicks. I typically just focus on creating good enviornment, I'll collect IG handle and connect people. But The last think you want to do is either be creepy or get rejected at you own even. The chiks that are interested in you will make it known, you can always hit people up after the party.
- Be generous and avoid being stingy. Your friends have also invited women to the party, and there may be potential romantic connections between the guests and your friends. Embrace the mindset that women are abundant, and be a gracious host to both your friends and guests. * Again - There's no need to "game" chicks at your own party
- Document the party. Everyone knows the idea of irrefutable evidence. You can either designate someone that can be trusted to take high quality pictures, or even go as far as hire/invite a photographer. * I have even gone the extra mile and set up a corner or room in my house for people to take pictures in. I leave a ring lights, and mirror there. Tag people in Instagram stories and create a highlight reel of the party If possible. People are often shy about having their picture taken. but I gaurantee, that days later, theyll hit you up to ask if you go pictures. Provide memorable moments for your guests, ensuring they have a great time and are motivated to attend future events.
Feel free to drop extra feedback or things that you have done to make your parties good.
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