Ive been noticing how much easier things feel when I treat women as friends first and not like a goal, not a decision I have to rush, and not something I need to force.
My psyche is calmer cuz
No pressure.
No timeline.
No performance.
Conversation flows better.
I’m present instead of calculating.
It feels like talking to another dude just one who looks better, smells better, and speaks softer.
And the energy is better on both sides.
One woman recently thanked me for being “easy to talk to,” and it clicked:
Ease comes from removing pressure, not from suppressing attraction. We just had “bible study” btw…..
Friend-first doesn’t kill attraction.
Pressure does.
This approach keepin me grounded and regulated. If attraction grows, it’s real. If it doesn’t, I haven’t lost myself trying to make something happen.
Curious if anyone else has experienced this shift.