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My Son Sees a Difference!

Morning, guys!

I haven't posted in a few days. It's been a bit of a weird week, but I just wanted to jump on here and share something that's actually given me a bit of hope.

I've started to see the tools and lessons from this community genuinely working.

Unfortunately, not with Tasha just yet. We're still only really talking about the kids, and that's okay. I'm respecting where she's at.

But yesterday morning something happened with my eldest son that really stuck with me.

He told me he was feeling upset.

Normally, I probably would've jumped straight in with questions or tried to fix the situation. Instead, I used a lot of the techniques I've learned from this community.

I stayed present.

I listened.

I stopped asking "why?" and instead asked questions that let him open up in his own time.

Eventually, he told me that he misses Tasha.

I'll be honest, that hurt to hear. ❤️

When you're going through a separation yourself, you're so caught up in your own emotions that sometimes you forget just how much the children are processing too.

It was really important to hear things from his perspective.

We had a really good chat, and he's decided he wants to tell Tasha how he's feeling as well. I think that'll be good for both of them because she's been such a huge part of his life.

What really got me though was what he said afterwards.

He looked at me and said,

"I feel better now we've talked. I think we should do it more often."

I told him I was trying to get better at talking about my feelings too.

His response absolutely floored me.

"At least you're trying, Dad. You're doing a good job. At least we're talking... all you can do is try." ❤️

Hearing that from my 10-year-old son meant more than I can put into words.

I'm working so hard to become a better man, and knowing that he can already see those changes gives me hope that maybe other people can too.

There have been a couple of setbacks this week as well.

I had my call with Talking Therapies, and while they've given me some really useful resources, the waiting list is around 12–18 months, which was difficult to hear.

I'm going to speak to my mum and see if there's another way I can access therapy sooner because I genuinely want to start working through everything as soon as possible.

Aside from that, I've got a job interview on Wednesday, and I'm really looking forward to it. 🤞

A fresh opportunity, a fresh chapter, and something positive to focus on.

Hope you all have an amazing weekend. ❤️

Keep showing up.

Keep learning.

Keep growing.

One conversation at a time, one step at a time. 👊🌱

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My Son Sees a Difference!