Favorite color: Blue. Specifically, the azure-turquoise of the New Mexico sky. Favorite Pokemon: I'm about a generation-and-a-half too old for Pokemon. I only know two by name, Pikachu and Jigglypuff. So then Jigglypuff, I guess, because it's super-fun to say. "JIGGLYPUFF!" Pokemon stand-in: I think of Pokemon as a kids' TV show that was a commercial for products based on the show. My generation was the first that they did this to, the TV-show-length-commercial-disguised-as-entertainment. Of course I didn't think that's what it was. It was just cool new cartoons! GI Joe and He-Man and so many others. "Transformers" was the one that I loved the most, and my favorite Transformer was probably the Dinobot that was a tyrannosaurus. "Grimlock!" His name was Grimlock! So then is there a tyrannosaurus Pokemon? Maybe that one is my favorite. Current Skool challenge: getting people into my group. My special sauce shows up best when I get to work directly with people in real-time. So I'm looking for those people! I've been lurking here in Goosify for a while now. It's pretty cool to see how much fun everyone has here, and how much all y'all support each other. It's good to be here.

Because I talk openly about sex and relationships, I hold a pretty high bar for who I let into my community. Not in a gatekeeping way. In a care way. I’ve learned that when the topic is vulnerable, intimate, and personal, psychological safety matters more than volume. I want people to be able to ask real questions without getting shut down by bravado, posturing, or performative “edginess.” I’ve also noticed that insecurity often shows up as brash talk, especially around sex. So I’m curious how others handle this. If someone wants to join your community and it feels like a mismatch, do you: decline or delete without follow up check in and clearly name the behavioral expectations of the space redirect them to content so they can learn the tone first Or something else entirely? I’m especially interested in hearing how you balance inclusivity with maintaining a respectful, practice based space. Thank you in advance. I’m always learning how to lead these rooms well.