Dear CB's: I'm feeling excited and honored to be able to guest host tomorrow's CB Session. I have been doing CB with Judy since October 2024 and this work has transformed my relationship with my self (among other things and people!). Giving you a bit of background on me and what i'm feeling called to offer so that you can make the most informed decision about whether and how you participate tomorrow! I'm a mixed latine/white queer person based in Boston, MA. My background is in environmental justice and policy, and I have been facilitating for many years. Though most of my facilitation has tended towards education, strategy, and decision-making - my spiritual practice has been shifting my work since 2018 towards a more holistic and indigenous view of the importance of our relationships - with ourselves, each other, with earth and with spirit - in shifting out of the cycle of oppression and extraction, and towards liberation. I'm feeling called to offer an exploration tomorrow of what nourishes and fills us with joy - so that we can play with moving towards these things as we break cycles and clear what no longer serves us. - I anticipate starting with our self-rituals for grounding; - then offering a longer visualization with movement to help us to ground in our FA's and tend to our littles (you can be on or off video); - We may explore a little with somatic self-massage and/or music/dance to tune into what if feels like to experience joy. - then we'll reflect and coaching may be offered - we will see what emerges! This is my plan but as Judy says - I'm not sure what may emerge at the time so it may shift. But I can tell you - everything is an invitation - there is no pressure to be on video, to participate, or even to attend. Whatever I offer will have some influence of my spiritual practice - rooted in mostly Mesoamerican and African lineages of my teachers - AND there is never an expectation for you to hold or agree with my beliefs, and you are at choice to adapt or opt out as you see fit.

Part of the goal of this CB space is to continually mature your Functional Adult by providing a safe space in which to unfold into who you really are. The daily practice of reparenting your Littles rewires your nervous system. As social creatures, we are hard wired to need connection and belonging to obtain safety and meaning. The way that our American society is structured is to produce people who are anti dependent and codependent. This is the back and forth dance between Adaptive Teen and Wounded Child. In my experience as a clinician of over 20 years, we all -every single one of us- has attachment “issues” due to how we were parented, the beliefs of society, and the very real unconscious impact of collective trauma due to settler colonialism, white body supremacy, patriarchy, and capitalism. Watch this analysis by @doss.discourse and then explore the following: 1. Who is driving their bus? (“They”: men doing the active harm.) 2. What are the feelings they might be feeling? 3. What do those adaptive parts need to hear to be able to access their functional adult? What boundary needs to be set? 4. Questions or insights when you explore this based on your experience? https://www.instagram.com/reel/DVUbl5vEkvu/?igsh=MTQ2aHhhZnEwZDUwMg==

Hi All! I meant to send earlier in the day. My cards/messages for today. Thought they tied into CB Tuesday group yesterday and some of you might like. 💛✨️🙌🫶

Ooops! Just saw that other people posted about body doubling lol. Based on our CB conversation yesterday, I hosted my own "priority party" at 3am🙃 today to clear the clutter of everything on my plate. I now have only 5 tabs open on my computer, down from 14ish and a very happy body because I asked her what she needed first....before my mind🤩 Anyone down to do a purge party?! My house is going on the market on March 15th and I neeeeeed to get rid of stuff this weekend but would love some conversation to keep me focused.

I have one child who is only motivated by money. And she sees no boundary between her desires and other people’s property/time/Nike shoes. So I parent via texting bc I can stay much more regulated. Her and her sister chose the rates. Parents, what are some ways you’ve had to parent in this time period? 🙃