💭 When Someone Leaves Your Group…

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Oof. You feel it in your chest before you even click the name.

Another member has left. And if you're anything like me, your first reaction is visceral: Disappointed. Sad. Even a bit rejected, if we’re being real.

Then comes the spiralling:

Should I message them?

Would that be too much?

What if they don’t even reply — will I take that even more personally?

But here’s what I actually did

I chose connection over silence.

Curiosity over assumption.

And what I received back stopped me in my tracks.

Three women messaged me back — each with a version of the same, unexpected truth:

✨ “It’s not your group — it’s me.”

✨ “I need this kind of space, but I’m not used to letting myself have it.”

✨ “I don’t do self-care. And being in your group was a loving nudge I wasn’t ready for yet.”

None of them said:

“It wasn’t worth it.”“

The vibe was off.”

You didn’t deliver.”

Instead, they told me:

"I’m not ready to stop running."

"I don’t know how to rest."

"I don’t prioritise me — and that’s confronting."

And honestly, that hit even deeper.

It reminded me that sometimes…People don’t leave because your space isn’t powerful.

They leave because it is.

Because you’re holding up a mirror.

Because your softness challenges their hustle.

Because your message makes them feel seen in ways they’re not used to.

So if you're in this space-building game — inviting people into something slower, truer, more grounded — please don’t take every departure as a failure.

Sometimes, they’re just not ready.

And when they are, your door will still be open.

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