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The Campfire Theory

I created a summer camp idea inside my Skool community, the Good Girl Gone Bold Club after thinking of creative ways to do "the work" of detecting our protection patterns and rewiring them to go bold.

30 days of themed camp experience (we just started Monday - not too late to join!)

The camp ends with a campfire circle on week 4. So campfire talk was on my radar.

I came across this tonight and I couldn't scroll past it.

The Campfire Theory.🔥

SIDEQUEST: Friendship talk incoming

Since our whole destination this month IS the campfire — it felt like the universe was sending us a little mid-week side quest.

It's about Friendship.

As grown women (heck, maybe men find the same challenge)

Can we just be honest about this for a minute?

Making friends as an adult woman is HARD.

Like — genuinely, surprisingly, nobody-warned-me-about-this hard.

When we were kids it was easy.

You sat next to someone at lunch. You both liked the same TV show. You were friends. Done.

But somewhere along the way it got complicated.

Heck, I just got unfriended by not just one, but three women I thought were friends.

That's how it goes.

We get busy. We got burned. We moved. We changed. We outgrew people — or they outgrew us. We stopped having the automatic proximity that made friendship feel effortless.

And a lot of us ended up with a wide circle and a quiet ache for something deeper.💛

The Campfire Theory names that ache so well.

Here's what it says:

Some people come into your life for your warmth.

Some stay long enough to enjoy the glow.

Some disappear the moment you burn low.

But a rare few...

Stay when the night gets cold.

Bring wood when your flames grow old.

Share stories and embrace your warmth.

Protect you and weather the storm.

Those are your people.

Finding them — and more importantly, BEING that person for someone else — that's the real work of adult friendship.

Can we find that here in online communities?

HEre's my thought on where that starts.

You join a community. You say hello. You give what you can. You support others.

You make the effort even when the Excuse Thicket is whispering "you don't have time for this".

These are campfire women.

The more I sit with my Almost Ready Camp, the more it's value expands. But this goal of making space for friendships to form culminates in a campfire circle talk.

And campfires are all about bringing people together.

Here's my question for tonight — kitchen table, honest:

👇 When you think about your campfire people — the ones who stay when the night gets cold - what made you recognize them?

And maybe more importantly, what kind of campfire friend are you becoming?

Come join the Almost Ready Camp. ⛺

Make new friends, but keep the old, some are silver and the others are gold.

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The Campfire Theory