POSTAPHOBIA (IYKYK) 😱 · the CLASSIFIEDS

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POSTAPHOBIA (IYKYK) 😱

And if you don’t yet…

you soon-ish will.

Let’s crack it together.

First up, I’ve been talking about this for yonks (hmmm, that's maybe a Brit saying-thinking out loud), and it came up again in a conversation with a juicy convo with

@Éva Raposa

(yes, she always brings those, keepin it real kinda chats), thanks for sparking back this spark btw…

Anyways...It totes reminded me how many of us are carrying this quietly, especially if we’ve been in lots of different communities over time.

Ok, full transparency because LOL at pretending otherwise…

So, I was literally sat here thinking what the frick should I post in this group and how could it actually be useful or supportive to someone, instead of just posting for the sake of posting, pffft

And then I realised… DUH… this is one of the conversations I have ALL. THE. TIME.

People telling me they don’t know what to write. Don’t know what to post. Feel like they’ve got nothing to say. Feel like nobody actually cares anyway.

And honestly, if you’ve ever thought any of that, you’re not broken, you’re not behind, and you’re DEFINITELY not alone.

A lot of this comes from what I call POSTAPHOBIA!!!! 🫨

Yep, it’s a (mimi-fied) thing + yup, I have it too.

It usually comes from being in loads of different spaces, all with different vibes, different rules, different expectations.

Maybe you’ve had posts deleted before. Maybe you’ve been told “this isn’t relevant here”. Maybe you shared something once and it landed weird.

All of that stuff gets stored in your body and suddenly posting feels… risky AF.

Uncomfortable. Like you might do it “wrong”= internal eeeeekkk, gulp...

So instead of doing something, you freeze. Overthink. Then balls to it, you do NAFF ALL, NADA, NOT A TOFU SAUSAGE.

And here’s the bit I really want you to hear.

We are ALL here - in SKOOL, in communities, in groups - because we have something to share.

We didn’t accidentally end up here. We might be at totally different stages, with different-sized communities, different confidence levels, different energy… but we’re all here because we care about building something. A community. An idea. An impact. A business.

Something that actually matters to us.

And that journey is sometimes MESSY AF.

Some days you’re on fire and can’t wait to show up. Other days tech breaks, ideas disappear, confidence dips, and everything feels harder than it should. If you’re nodding right now… DUH.

Welcome to being HUMAN

Side note while we’re here: I was NOT born a writer. I didn’t magically feel confident posting. I got better by showing up and doing it. Repeatedly. Messily. And also, fun fact, I’m way better behind a screen than speaking in person. So yeah… we all have our things.

So if you’re sat there thinking “ok but WHAT do I actually talk about?” let's try keep this simple, hey, some food for thought

You can talk about what’s working for you right now. What’s frustrating you. Something you learned today. Something that didn’t go to plan. A win that feels small but actually matters. A wobble you’re having. A question you don’t have the answer to yet. A thought you’ve been sitting on but haven’t said out loud.

Because here’s the bit people forget, someone else is either one step behind you, right where you are, or about to hit the thing you’ve already been through. Your messy, imperfect share could be the exact lightbulb they need.

Yes, some people have massive communities already.

Yes, some people are just starting.

But we’re all in the same damn room trying to figure it out.

And YOUR voice? YOUR way of saying things? That’s the bit NOBODY else can replicate.

If you’re still thinking “but I’m not good at writing”, here’s my no-BS hack (this is literally what I do). Grab your phone, open Notes, hit the mic and just TALK. Like you’re talking to a friend. Or your dog. Obvs. Let it transcribe, add some spaces, don’t over-edit it to death, and end with a question. That’s it.

Posts are just conversations. Conversations create connections. And connections lead to… everything else.

And yeah, if you wanna tag me when you post, DO IT — I’ll happily WOOP and do a weird happy dance (probs a very bad running man) in the comments.

And look, being totally honest, if you’re craving spaces where you can say the real thing, show up messy, talk about the stuff underneath business, and not worry about getting it “right”… that’s literally why I built our Skool Community The Backroom.

No polish. No pretending. Just humans being human. Give it a bash. Bish bash bosh.

We’re all friends. We’re all a bit weird. And most of us like dogs 🐶

So… your turn.

What’s ONE thing you could talk about today if you didn’t overthink it?

(And yes, this whole post is a perfect example.)

WOOP 💛

P.S. - Just dropped my CLASSIFIED in the classroom today if you want more deets...

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