MONDAY MORNING CUE · the skool CLASSIFIEDS

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MONDAY MORNING CUE

This is when someone covers part of their body with an object during a date or interaction.

Holding their wine glass up against their chest at the bar. Keeping their phone face-down but firmly between you on the table.

Hugging a handbag on their lap. Sliding the menu, candle, or salt shaker into the space between you. Crossing their arms over a jacket folded in front of them.

It signals insecurity, self-protection, or sometimes someone whose default is to keep new people at arm's length until they decide it's safe.

But context matters.

On a first date, an object barrier early on is often nerves, not rejection. The job isn't to call it out. The job is to read it, then make the environment safe enough that they put the object down on their own.

Watch for the moment the glass goes back on the table. The phone gets pocketed. The bag slides to the floor. That's the read not the barrier itself, but when and why it drops.

Remember: context and clusters of cues. One barrier alone tells you nothing. A barrier plus leaning back, plus short answers, plus checking the time —that's a cluster. That's data.

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what's the most obvious object barrier you've seen on a date, and did it ever come down?

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