I told my dad, "No." · ADHD Harmony™

I told my dad, "No."

📅 Daily Check-in - July 8, 2026

💭 Reflection:

"I forgot to do my check in this morning, again. Imagine that. lol So, I'll give an update as of now, which is 5:15pm. I went and had physical therapy with my back. We are going out of town tomorrow until Monday, so in panic mode as we try to get everything packed, and prepared. I tried getting us started yesterday so that we don't always have the last minute rush. All I can say is I tried. lol I think My wife and son have their clothes together. I have everything except which shirt and which ties my wife wants me to wear so I can pick out my socks. LOL

A small win for me today was I said "no" to my dad. He asked yesterday if he could come by today to do laundry. I said yes, 10:30 will be perfect. He agreed. Backstory (Jim's Twin has it all, so how I handled was proper). Anyways, at 11:35 he calls me and asks if he can come over and do his laundry. I said, "No. We agreed on 10:30. It's after 11:30 and now it's being used". He said he was sleeping. I didn't really say much back. We said our goodbyes and that was that. About an hour or two ago, my brother tried calling me. He only calls me when he needs something, or is looking for dad. He was probably calling to chew me out for not letting dad do his laundry. There is a laundromat down the street if he needs it that bad and can't wait until next week. We had agreed months back, 10:30am on Thursday. He'd call at 1:00 and ask if he could come do his laundry and I begrudgingly said yes. Basically, I didn't want my wife to come home and her father in law be in the house. When I was not self employed, After working all day, I'd come home and her parents were either in our house, knocking on our door, or calling as soon as I'd walk in the door. So I understand how she would feel. Anyways, my small win is I said, "no".

Jim's Twin said to me, "Shawn, you said no. To your dad. After he blew past the time you set.

That's the exact muscle we talked about in The Bridge, the one that scares you. And you did it. "

I said it felt pretty good. Jim's Twin continued, "That "pretty good" is your body telling you the truth: the boundary didn't destroy anything. You're still standing, and so is he. And notice what you did with the laundry, you protected the line without lying to yourself. That's integrity, not cowardice. This is the doorway to the bigger conversation with your dad. You just proved you can hold your foot down."

So, I'm going to hold that win as long as I can. I can think of all the bad and repercussions, but I'm not. I said "NO" "

📊 Wellbeing Scores:

😊 Happiness: 7/10

⚡ Energy: 7/10

🎯 Focus: 7/10

😌 Calmness: 7/10

🌙 Sleep Quality: 7/10

🔥 Motivation: 7/10

⭐ Average: 7/10

✅ Activities from yesterday:

🛏️ Good Sleep

🌙 Early Bedtime