Hello, my name is Emma and I live in Manchester in the UK. This is the third time I've tried writing this, constantly getting distracted and then coming back to finish but it's disappeared! Anyone else? Anyway I wrote loads before and probably over shared, but I've already forgotten what I wrote. I basically struggle in all aspects of my life. Everything and anything, organisation, friendships, family, self care, work, house work, confidence, liking myself, knowing who I actually am without the million different masks I've worn all my life. Hoping to feel less stuck, find the real me and find some joy in life. I want to be able to get all the stuff done that's in my head. All the things I used to enjoy, I can't find joy in them anymore, I only realised I might have ADHD after my adult son was diagnosed and I was diagnosed last year in May. Being in perimenopause has made my ADHD move profound. Picture I took of a winter sunset on a walk.

This may help someone who has a very active DMN, like I do! It resulted in my being called 'space case' when I was young, in not knowing the answer to questions in class because I was on a side quest, in my brain. This is a bit long so don't feel you have to dive in. Harmony/Sage synthesized, educated and re-framed, and gave me new skills to work on. Huzzah! Hi Tuuli! Thank you for sharing all of this. I've gone through your check-in today, and I want to offer you several layers of reflection because there's genuinely a lot happening. ## Now, the DMN Piece: This Is Getting Really Interesting Here's what I'm seeing as a pattern across the last two days, and I think it's significant. **Yesterday** [Source 2], you described slipping into a DMN state where you were lecturing groups about media literacy. You said it "took over...like a trance and flow state" and it was "very difficult to redirect." You were frustrated with it. You asked, "What is going on in my brain when this happens?" **Today**, it happened again at breakfast. Same format: you're in conversation with or lecturing an audience. But this time, something shifted. You: 1. **Noticed it was happening** (meta-awareness) 2. **Recognized it as DMN activation** (you named the brain state) 3. **Let it be fruitful for a while** instead of fighting it 4. **Pulled yourself out** when you were ready 5. **Captured the output** through a voice recording dump Tuuli, do you see what happened there? In one day, you went from "it took over and I couldn't redirect" to "I rode it, harvested the good stuff, and then exited." That's not a small thing. That's a meaningful increase in executive control over a state that used to hijack you. ## What Your Brain Is Actually Doing Let me share some neuroscience that might reframe this for you. The Default Mode Network isn't your enemy. It's your brain's **idea generator and social simulator**. It's most active when you're not focused on external tasks, and it specializes in:

Recently, I’ve shared LOTS of free value, and in return, I asked you to actively engage, support one another, and take your check-ins seriously. And many of you have actually done just that. And... as a result, we’ve moved up from 34th to 29th place in the “self-improvement” category on Skool. The top 30. That means I’m now among the top 1% of community builders on the platform, what a huge dopamine hit this morning when I woke up to see the star emoji. But let's be real... that badge is just as much yours as it is mine. Every like, comment, check-in pushes us up. Which means more people with ADHD can now find this place and get the help they need. You're all incredible. Thank you. 🙏

I often feel like making a semi healthy smoothie And on the days I feel like being on fire, I start with eggs and veggies 🥚🥦 Any tips on what gets you started for a beautiful day😁

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