I was delivering some ADHD specific training at my 9-5 job role yesterday that was focused on children 11-16, a couple of the staff taking part in the training also had ADHD. This naturally led to conversations about how ADHD presents differently during our lives, so I wanted to carry on that conversation here. For me, I completely disregarded it as I became an adult as in my mind it was something that just impacted school. It wasn’t until I was in my 30’s and becoming more self-aware that I started to pay any real attention to it. Having a better understanding of my relationship with ADHD had definitely made my 30’s much easier to manage than my 20’s. What are the biggest changes you’ve noticed with your relationship with ADHD as you’ve got older?

I remember i was 18... my mother had offered to watch her granddaughter for my sister. I was at her house visiting that day... I could never hold back when I know i would see sweet little Geni ... I knew mom offered this to my sister, to give her time she needed for self care. I invited myself. Mom appreciated my offer of help. As the day wore on, the toddler exhausted mom... her friend called... she complained... a LOT to her friend. Not just im tired... like really expressing deep resentment. I was holding the baby... she cried. She was hearing and understanding what was happening. I was there helping her, playing with her because it brought me joy... Mom was offering the gift but holding resentment.... I got curious. "Mom"... I asked when she got off the phone. "Why do you offer something if you don't want to give it?" She said "of course I want to give it..." "That's not what I saw today Mom, no shame, but let's talk about it." She sat silently for a while. "I don't know" she said. "Yes you do." I said. She said..." I wish you hadn't seen that" I said, Im glad i did. I want to understand. Don't you? "I do." She said "Doesn't it say somewhere in the Bible that we're supposed to give with a giving heart? Isn't that supposed to mean that once the gift is offered you sacrifice any attachment to the gift? That we decide to let it be joyful even if they sell it or trash it? Isn't it still a gift?" "Yes" she said... "it is." "So, how is a gift of your time, that you get to spend with one so fresh from heaven, any different?... AND Isn't bitching about it, outloud to another... also trashing your own gift? " Her eyes got wide... sigh... hugs... "I never thought about it that way. "But you're right. I want to change that." And she did, not perfectly.. but Persistently. The lesson for me was that if I complain it sours everything. My mood, their mood, and the gift is no longer a gift... it even goes so far as to cause damage 💔 😢 Mom getting upset was really because she was tired, hungry, bored... not because she resented time with her granbaby.

Hey, everyone! Just wanted to call myself out (hehe) and admit that I haven't been doing the 21-day challenge the last 4 days. Why? Because life got WILD! I went to a fancy wedding over the weekend and have been packing my house for a move this coming weekend. I've also been a bit overwhelmed with all the tasks on my to-do list and have been intentionally taking more breaks and spending more time outside to help myself regulate. Sometimes, being an entrepreneur is stressful. It's OK to not be perfect all the time. We all have those days and weeks. What matters is that you get up, dust yourself off, and keep going. You can't lose if you don't quit. Anyone else feel like they let some things slip lately?

I’ve felt a lot of resistance to posting in this challenge over the past few days. With the support of my friends, that feeling has passed, and I’ve gained new clarity about my current situation. I’ve been dreading the idea of looking for a full-time job because so much of my identity has been wrapped up in Focus Founders and entrepreneurship. Even imagining working under someone else at something that doesn’t light me up, just for the sake of stability, felt heavy. It felt like my freedom was slipping away. However, I have new perspective. The more I sat with it and leaned on the people I love, the clearer it became that stability and freedom are two sides of the same coin. So I’m no longer dreading what’s ahead. I’m holding my head high, grateful that I get to keep creating the life I desire. P.S. I also get to put energy into finding work that feels aligned first. It may not be exactly what I want in this moment. It is what I get to do.

Howdy y’all, I’m relatively new here and wanted to introduce myself and connect with others in this space. I recently joined the FF Accelerator cohort and have been really appreciating the container — but more than anything, it’s made me realize how long I was trying to do everything on my own. As a business owner with ADHD, ideas and motivation were never the issue. It was focus, follow-through, and carrying the whole thing solo. I’d start strong, get overwhelmed, then scatter or stall. What’s shifted lately is slowing down enough to clarify what I’m actually building, simplifying instead of adding more, and having real structure and humans around me. Over the past several weeks I went from a loose vision to a functioning high-ticket course with a small paid beta group — but the bigger change is internal. My nervous system feels steadier. My weeks feel clearer. My work feels more livable. I’m mostly sharing this because I’m curious who else here has wrestled with similar patterns — ADHD, overwhelm, lone-wolfing, or just trying to build something real without burning out. If that’s you, I’d love to connect. Feel free to comment or reach out. Always down to meet other founders who are building thoughtfully and learning how not to do it all alone. — Joe