Hey everyone! Glad to be here and in the tribe. I didn’t really know what to say for my first post, chat, whatever you wanna call it. Anyway, I was just wondering if anyone’s been through anything similar and especially if anyone has some advice for this situation, anyway to the point. I’ve had some concerns with my girlfriend and her family cause she’s been doing maybe 90% of everything for her family. Now I get it if they need it in a pinch or if they just need her to get them something or something like that, but this is just every. Single. Day. Genuinely all year she’s cooking their food, cleaning the whole house and she’s caring for her younger siblings while her mums just sitting around and reaping the benefits. Her mum doesn’t even let her out the house half the time. It’s gotten to the point where she’s using self harm (sh) religiously, granted she hasn’t been able to stop shing since she was a child as that’s how long she’s been doing everything for her family. This could just be me being paranoid but I’m really concerned for her safety and welling. If you have any questions or need any more context just ask and I’ll tell you whatever you need to know. Thanks even for just reading this far!

Yo, I know i havent been on here too much recently lmao. Just an update, things are going really well, Ive been super disciplined on my working out, meditations, and routines in general. On top of that Ive been focusing on subtracting more than adding. As in i wrote down a list of my bad habits and have been focusing on those and getting rid of my bad habits, and its naturally left room for good ones. Porn is by far the best its ever been, of course I need more time but I feel like im im a lot of control, creating has been good and consistent, though i could be doing more, and doomscrolling is still probably my biggest problem, but Ive been noticing it more and doing other things. Im really proud of myself.

So me and this girl were friends for like maybe 5 months , and I was okay with her behavior and everything nothing too aggressive even though one time she judged my beliefs but I've let that slide . Then until last week , I was sitting with her in the school yard I'd say , and a classmate of ours was with us we were talking , and the girl completely changed a behavior in front of him which I've noticed before but I never knew it was the pick me behavior . I thought she was like that . Anyways , she was wearing a jacket , she took it off then she wore it again and she stood up then she sit right again . She literally disturbed me but I didn't say anything cuz it didn't trigger me that much , then in a moment she made really uncomfortable when I said hold on I wanna find an empty classroom so I can record some covers for Instagram , I went to search and she turned around telling him oh look she has the walk of Michael Jackson , she's literally jealous of my model-like walk I suppose . Then I returned and I said , there's no empty classrooms , she said oh here's the restroom go and record there .... That was nasty , but yeah . Then I said no I won't and the guy said you want spirits to possess her or what ? I said I don't believe in spirits she said oh I can smell a Jewish person here .... How can you say that ?? And she followed by : oh don't tell me that I'm dealing with atheists right now , wait do you believe in God ? I said yes for the sake of ending her conversation because she's way too religious and that's not my thing . She labeled me atheist just because I said I don't believe in spirits not God lol. Afterwards , she started to give me weird stares , then she was speaking in English and she messed up a sentence so I hurried up to correct her which I normally do and she doesn't take it to heart , she literally said oh stfu stared at me and continued what she was saying to that guy . I literally didn't talk much to her that afternoon and then I messaged her on telegram saying girl you violated a boundary of mine saying that she said I was joking can't you get it !!? I can't believe that you thought of me like that .

On my way to start the year 2026 sober ! From an addiction of mine that started when I was 16 .

Basically theres this girl that I developed a bit of a crush on without knowing who she was. So to prioritize my peace I kicked her out of my mind cause I needed to focus on myself. Recently I’ve been seeing her a bit more and I want to try and spark something, anything. Ive been trying to get more comfortable with small talk so ive been talking to more people, ive been observing things and commenting on them. But I just freeze or do my own thing when its her, either she has nothing to comment on or I am afraid of just trying, I feel like im overthinking things. I tell my mind that i dont want to make it obvious i want to know her but isnt that exactly what I want? I want to try something, some people ive asked have said to just shoot the shot cause Ive got nothing to lose, others have said to not force anything, and others have said to kinds force something but dont make anything obvious. At this point its more about me than a connection, but hey a connection would be nice.