and they don’t have to be dull, distant, or sexless over time. Valentine’s season tends to bring this up. Not always in obvious ways. Sometimes it just highlights where we’ve been managing instead of connecting. Most couples don’t stop loving each other. They stop feeling safe enough to stay open. So they pull back. They react instead of speak. And the relationship slowly starts running on fear instead of connection. Fear doesn’t soften through insight alone. It changes when the nervous system experiences safety — and that happens when we practice new skills and habits together. That’s what the Power of Pleasure Summit is about (Feb 11–12, 2026). Real, practical tools for working with desire, fear, shame, and long-term intimacy, without self-blame or performance. I’ll be teaching Keeping the Spark Alive on Wednesday, Feb 11 at 1:45pm PT, sharing one simple shift to help couples move out of fear and back into connection. If this resonates, I’d love to have you there https://www.sexreimagined.com/a/2148204064/BDGmZtFa This is from the Better Sex Community - see you over there?

It's that time of the week when I share the numbers with you. The only reason I do this is because some of the members early on asked for it, and since the group is about visibility, I thought it made sense! # Members Total: 1286 (+45) #Premium Members: 207 (+4) Percentage of members who are premium: 16.1% (-0.3%) Conversion Rate: 22.8% (-3.5%) Ranking in Money: #24 (-3) Ranking Overall: #87 (-8) Highest Activity Day: 1570 (-1704) Lowest Activity Day: 469 (-380) The Context: Last week was a week in between challenges, and as expected, it was quieter. This is totally okay. A community goes through ebbs and flows, and it's no need to panic. It's kind of like how some weight-loss coaches will tell you not to weigh yourself every day because the scale is going to go up and down. What you want to do is track trends over time...😊 An interesting this I did this week was track how many membership requests I was declining. I did this for a period of four days and found that, on average, I am only accepting 47% of the membership requests. More surprising, only a small percentage of these are flagged as spammers. There are a lot of people who do not have active Skool communities who are requesting to join the community, so every time I get a little down about growing more slowly than similar communities, I have to remind myself that we could be growing a lot faster, but I have consciously chosen to keep the group focused, and I think the payoff in terms of quality is more than worth it. I hope you think so too! 😉 This week, we are focusing on the Classroom Ads Challenge, and I really hope to see you participate. My (secret) goal is to have at least 100 of you represented there, but I would be ecstatic if it were even more!!! You also might want to check out the pinned post in the community that outlines all the benefits of becoming a premium member for only $3!!! Let me know any feedback you have. I'm all ears! 😊

If you are already on the Premium tier and want to know how to make the most of it, or are thinking about upgrading, here is everything you need to know... ⭐️ 🗞️ In the Standard tier, you can post in the community once a day in any category (except for days with a hashtag prompt, then you get an extra post!). There are two kinds of acceptable community posts: "anything" promoting your Skool group, or offers that are free (freebies, free workshops, podcast promotions, your own YouTube channel promotions). You can see the list of categories in the How It Works pinned post. These "rules" are for both standard and premium members. 🌟 🗞️ Now for the additional benefits for Premium members ($3/month or $33/year) 1. Premium members are allowed to put an "ad" in the classroom to advertise anything they want - free or paid. The ad stays up for as long as they are a premium member. Ads rotate weekly. 📰 You can place your ad by creating a draft course in your own community and then copying the course key and sending it to me to copy into the Classifieds. Course keys can be found by going to the thumbnail of the course in your classroom and clicking on the three dots in the top right corner. 2. Premium members also have access to all live events on the calendar. This includes meetups twice a month (called the PERSONALS) and open drop-ins once a month. 📆 The meetups are structured and focus on improving your visibility as well as helping you make connections and foster collaboration. 3. Premium members also have the opportunity to host their own free masterclass for all members on the CLASSIFIEDS calendar. This gives you the chance to provide value to the members and then pitch your group or product at the end. 💵 In order to qualify to host a masterclass, you have to first take my How to Teach a High-Value, High-Converting Masterclass workshop ($27). The next one is being offered on January 6th with doors opening for registration January 2nd. After taking the prerequisite workshop, the first masterclass you offer is of no charge. Subsequent masterclasses that you would like to offer will be subject to a $10 administrative fee.

There's one more week left in our referral rush, and it's still anyone's game. @Des Dreckett came out of nowhere this week and entered the leaderboard with 6 referrals!!! In case this is news to you, the three people with the most (accepted) referrals by Jan 28 will get pinned posts in the community. First prize is a 72-hour post, second prize is a 48-hour post, and third prize is a 24-hour post. Here are the standings as of today (please note that members with only one referral are not reflected here even though I greatly appreciate your contributions!): @Katya McEwen 9 @Tim Adam 7 @Des Dreckett 6 @Katrina Wright 6 @Robert Cummings 5 @Heather Di Rocco 5 @Nick Nebelsky 5 @Diana Frank 5 @Heather Wilson 4 @Paulo Costa 4 @Kat Oakley 4 @Mona Weathers 4 @Jake Hill 4 @Heather Boers 3 @Éva Raposa 3 @Christopher Whitehead-Baines 2 @Kisma Reidling 2 @Ivan Ivanov 3 @Julie Nelson 3 @Karen Castillo 3 @Sherifa Nakalema 2 @Lisa Black 2 @Iris van der Stelt 2 @Lucas Edmonds 2 @Stacey Youlios 2 @Sondra Verva 2 @Yvonne Carter 2 @Lisa Z 2