Hey beautiful souls, Im checking in to see how you all are. Ive been absolutely jam packed with work since coming back from holiday and had so much life admin coming at me its been bonkers. I would love, if you feel called to share, any glimmers, wins, successes, insights, a-ha moments or anything you would love to share to share some love, smiles or let me boost you up and clap for you. Tx

Safety is where healing begins. So many of us are trying to grow, heal, manifest, communicate better, or change our lives while our nervous system is still in survival mode. When the body does not feel safe, it will always prioritise protection over expansion. Safety is not only about what is happening around us — it is also about what is happening within us. Safety in the body means noticing whether we are living in a constant state of tension, hyper-vigilance, shutdown, people-pleasing, or emotional reactivity. These are often signs that our system has learned to survive rather than rest. Our body keeps the score of past experiences, trauma, stress, and environments that once taught us that the world was not safe. Safety in our environment matters too. The spaces we spend time in, the relationships we are surrounded by, the conversations we engage in, and even the content we consume all communicate messages to the nervous system. Do I need to brace? Do I need to perform? Do I need to protect myself? Or can I soften here? And then there is safety in community. Healing was never meant to happen in isolation. Safe community gives us something profoundly reparative: the experience of being seen, accepted, and supported without judgment. It reminds the body that connection does not always equal danger. That being vulnerable does not always lead to rejection. That we can belong and still be fully ourselves. One of the most powerful ways to begin creating internal safety is through heart coherence. When we slow down and breathe intentionally — especially through the heart space — we send signals of safety to the body and brain. Gentle, rhythmic breathing begins to regulate the nervous system, soften stress responses, and bring us back into the present moment. Try breathing slowly for 5 counts in and 5 counts out while focusing your awareness on your heart. As you breathe, bring in the energy of loving kindness: May I be safe. May I be held. May I be at peace. May I trust myself.

Happy Self Care Sunday. The sun is out in London which is always exciting as i know i spend too much time inside with the work that I do so today ill be going for walks and reading in the garden. But first yoga, workout and meditation. Im all packed and ready to fly to Tunisa tomorrow for my birthday, im excited to get my feet in sand, swim and relax. Deep breaths, dropping into my body and listening to the ocean, to nature, feeling the warm sun on my skin will give me a sense of wellbeing i havent had for a while so im excited for that. What does your Self Care Sunday and plans ahead look like? Are you building in ways to fill your cup or just building a to do list to bosh through with no you time (if so please relook at that). Tx

Now include: This is a community space for healing. If you would like to work through something specifically please book a coaching call with me or a free discovery call. If you are feeling very disregulated, suicidal or in need of urgent support please see the helplines below. Get yourself the help and support you need and look after yourself. Your safety is important to me and this community. Samaritans https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=945644317&gbraid=0AAAAAD-VeVGcIzENhpOtQMPlpmB3N1Q4s&gclid=CjwKCAjw14zPBhAuEiwAP3-Eb9FzJ_C6idRkP8pKKGQZ38FHgCYQExXw91VLODlKIsivTXR28nKOzxoC2ocQAvD_BwE Solace https://www.solacewomensaid.org/ Met police advice https://www.met.police.uk/advice/advice-and-information/daa/domestic-abuse/support-organisations/

One thing that doesn’t get spoken about enough on the healing path… is the purge. When you begin doing deep shadow work—observing your patterns, your triggers, your behaviours—you’re not just “learning” about yourself… You are changing yourself. And change at this level often comes with a release. Purging is part of ego death. Its what happens when an old version of you begins to dissolve. The jealous part. The controlling part. The “I’m not good enough” belief. The voice that says you’re not smart, not worthy, not safe. These aren’t just thoughts… they’re patterns your nervous system has practiced for years—sometimes decades. So when you start to see them clearly… and choose differently…Something has to move. That movement can look like: – Crying out of nowhere – Deep emotional releases – Feeling nauseous or physically sick – Fasting or losing appetite – Sweating (saunas, heat, detox) – Exhaustion or needing more rest – Old memories surfacing – A strong urge to withdraw and reflect This isn’t you “falling apart.” This is you letting go. Through practices like meditation, journaling, daily self-observation, coaching, and therapy… you begin to witness the parts of you that were created to survive—but are no longer aligned with who you’re becoming. And as you witness without judgment… those parts start to loosen their grip. The purge is the release. The exhale. The clearing. It can feel uncomfortable. Sometimes even scary. But it’s also a sign that your system feels safe enough to let it go. You’re not losing your real self. Your are shedding what was never truly you to begin with. In this space, we honour that process. You don’t have to rush it, and you don’t have to force it. And you definitely don’t have to go through it alone. Hold yourself gently through the release. There is wisdom in what is leaving you. And there is power in who you are becoming. Tx